3 Free, Life-Changing Events to Check Out in January

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As the New Year approaches, many of us are making lists of ways we can improve our lives and better ourselves.

If you’re looking to transform your body, calm your mind, or push yourself outside your comfort zone, you may benefit from participating in one of these three free events from Tiny Buddha friends and contributors.

Transform Your Body

On Tuesday, January 10th, at 7:00pm EST, Tiny Buddha contributor Rena Greenberg is running a free webinar, entitled The Fastest and Easiest Way to Remove Subconscious Obstacles to Weight Loss and Feel Great Fast in 2017.

In this webinar you’ll learn:

  • How to stop the endless cycle of dieting by tapping into the wisdom in your subconscious
  • How to lose weight without feeling deprived, by changing the way you subconsciously think about food
  • Quick and easy ways to change your behavior and eliminate overeating, binging, snacking, and emotional eating
  • How you can lose weight and get healthy with powerful self-hypnosis technology

About Rena Greenberg:

Since 1990 Hay House author Rena Greenberg has helped over 200,000 people, all over the world, lose weight and achieve optimal health. Her groundbreaking wellness seminar for weight control has been reviewed and sponsored in over 75 hospitals and in 100+ major corporations such as Walt Disney World and Home Depot.

Her clients often say they “owe their lives to her,” because she finds the fastest and easiest ways to help people release subconscious blocks to losing weight and find lasting health, happiness, and freedom.

Sign up for Rena’s free weight loss webinar here.

Calm Your Mind

No practice can improve your state of mind more effectively than meditation. It can reduce stress and anxiety, enhance your focus, increase your resilience, and even improve your physical health.

From January 2nd through January 4th the non-profit Heartfulness is offering three free online video masterclasses in meditation, conducted by the teacher of Heartfulness, Kamlesh D. Patel.

The masterclasses will be available online, starting at midnight, and will be accessible throughout the day. Each class runs about one hour.

About the Masterclasses:

January 2nd: Relax

In the first class, learn Heartfulness relaxation for physical well-being, as well as the Heartfulness guided meditation on the source of light within your own heart

January 3rd: Rejuvenate

In the second class, be guided through a simple rejuvenative technique to unwind the mind at the end of the day, let go of stresses and emotions, and simplify your life.

January 4th: Connect

In the third class, learn to connect with your inner self by listening to the heart’s voice. Observe your deepest feelings, make wise choices and weave your destiny.

Sign up for the Heartfulness free meditation masterclasses here.

Push Yourself Outside Your Comfort Zone

Do you wish you could do more with your life, but hold yourself back because you’re afraid of rejection?

Whether you’re seeking new friends, a new job, or any other new possibility, you’d likely benefit from getting comfortable hearing with word “no.” Every “no” is one step closer to a “yes.”

Tiny Buddha contributor Jacob Sokol’s free comfort zone challenge can help.

About the Challenge:

If you’re up for playing, the game will help you…

  • Expand your assumptions about what you think is possible in your life
  • Develop the skill of asking for what you really want
  • Overcome your fears of rejection and develop more courage

The goal of the game is simple: collect NOs by asking for things you’d like.

As a side effect of playing, you’ll stop taking things so personally and start to rewire your nervous system to feel rejection-proof.

Once you get told no, you’ll want to come share about it in Jacob’s super engaged free FB group. The group shower you with celebration and share their own stories of getting NOs.

The challenge will begin on Jan 1st, 2017 and will run until the end of January. It’s completely free, and you can join at any time.

Join the free comfort zone challenge here.

I hope you enjoy these wonderful events!

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About Lori Deschene

Lori Deschene is the founder of Tiny Buddha and Recreate Your Life Story, an online course that helps you let go of the past and live a life you love. To strengthen your relationships, get her new book, Tiny Buddha's 365 Tiny Love Challenges. For inspiring posts and wisdom quotes, follow Tiny Buddha on Twitter & Facebook.

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What I learned After Sending 100,000 Newsletters

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No one can argue with the power of newsletters and how effective they are in getting re-visitors to your blog. Neil Patel stated himself it’s impossible to get 100,000 people to your blog a month without an active email campaign. However, you need to have the right elements in place when sending emails. What good are emails if they don’t get opened and people don’t click on the “call-to-action”? I’ve worked with over 20 people in the last year many of them large business owners. They would often consult me on SEO and effective email marketing. Last year, with “2” of my clients, I sent out 100,000 newsletters over the course of 11 months and learned a few cool things.

Let’s get started…

Duration

When sending emails you have to be careful because sending too many can overwhelm the subscriber. You have to figure out the right frequency and it should depend on the following factors.

  • How often you update content.
  • How valuable the content.
  • The day and time sent during the week.

If you update content daily then send an email every week with a breakdown of the content published last week. This way the subscriber can choose which one they find engaging. Sending emails everyday when you publish might NOT be appealing especially when your content isn’t always up to par. Next,

It’s important to send the breakdown email on a Tuesday since this is still the beginning of the week and people have cleaned out their junk emails normally done on Monday.

Go Mobile

We knew that 44% of people visiting the website were surfing through their mobile phones. Installing Google Analytics in the backend will provide you with device information. This is why it was more important to ensure our newsletters are mobile-friendly. If we didn’t make them mobile compatible then that’s a potential 44% of visitors NOT engaging with our website. The good news is that ESP’s like Aweber.com make it very simple to create mobile-friendly newsletters and even provide you default templates.

We saw an impressive 77% open rate on newsletters sent.

Always Reply

One of my customers wanted feedback so sent out a newsletter asking a simple question: What do you think about our new web design? Many people responded and we made it a point to respond to every email message that came through. We received several emails back acknowledging our replies and they even mentioned they would visit the website more often. The lesson is…

To always reply back to emails your getting in response to newsletters. Many people when they get a reply back will appreciate the effort and this will build loyalty going forward. As a matter of fact, after the 11 month trial, we actually saw an increase in traffic.

Add First Name

This is very important and we doubled our open rates by simply adding a first name. The next time you send out emails it’s important to always include their first name in the subject line. It’s NOT only professional, but builds a level of respect. People also acknowledge messages with their first name because it’s a personal touch. Here’s something else,

Include your domain name when sending messages because it builds brand awareness and people are more incline to open emails from companies they recognize. We split tested both options and doubled our open rates adding first name. When we tested newsletters by adding and removing company URL, the results were very impressive. 20% more people opened newsletters when domain name was included and we attribute this to people simply recognizing us as a reputable source.

Wrapping It Up…

These were the biggest things we learned after sending out 100,000 newsletters. When trying to figure out the right date and time, it will really depend on your niche. However, as a blogger your better off sending on weekdays preferably on Tuesday and Wednesday because weekends people tend to be away from their email. They also want to avoid any contact with work during their time off.

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5 Steps to Instantly Turn Your Boring Life Into an Epic Adventure

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So lately, you’ve been spending your 9 to 5 most likely in an office chair, receiving orders like an errand boy from your boss and co-workers alike, anxiously waiting for the ever-slow ticking clock to ring 5 O’clock so you can finally take a deep breathe in relief.

Does this sound familiar? And yes, that’s not all — while trying to catch a little fun with the remaining hours of the day, you suddenly remember you’ve got to return home and take a rest to prepare for the next day’s misery — by reading this, no doubt you can relate to the above scenario in a way or two.

Well, you’re not alone. Yes, I’ve been there too. However, being quite aware of the fact that I’m never down for just working and paying bills till my last breathe, I rolled up my sleeves and followed the exact same tips below. Guess what, I’m presently living an adventure!

Below are 5 practical tips on how I turned my life from a boring sad story to an epic adventure, and how you can instantly do the same:

1. Decide what you want

Do you want freedom? I mean, do you really want freedom? How bad do you want it? Perhaps you once tried to make things happen in the past but later reached a bridge that seemed impossible to cross so you decided to suck it up and wait patiently for a miracle to happen. Well, it doesn’t happen! Ever!

If living the ideal life is an easy peasy or a miracle, who will be leading a boring life the first place? It’s going to be hard, yeah, sometimes all odds will be so in your disfavor that you might think “The heck, I might as well just live my boring life.”

At that point in my journey, you know what I did? Instead of throwing in the towel, I paused to reflect and asked myself diverse questions like:

  • How bad do you want it?
  • How much can you sacrifice?
  • Is this really all you can offer?
  • What if you’re just an inch away from hitting it real big?
  • If you give up, then what?

After providing the appropriate answer to the above questions and lots of others, I came to an instant conclusion: This is what I want and I’ll give it all takes, period! Hence, escaping your boring life depends solely on you. You either decide to suck it up or to give it all it takes to escape it.

“In order to succeed, your desire for success should be greater than your fear of failure.” – Bill Cosby

2. Seek for ways to make ends meet

No one ever runs out of opportunities, except you personally decide to shut yourself off from the world and put up with whatever comes your way. Exceed your low-paying job and seek for a side fix. Discover what you’re good at and capitalize on it.

You want good income and freedom? Search for jobs that satisfies your needs. Or better still, create one. Begin a startup on any field you have even the littlest experience in and be committed. Everything big starts small (The Coca-Cola industry sold just 25 drinks in its first year). Remember that!

3. Throw away that sheep skin

To live that life, to have all that luxury, to attend all the classy banquets, you definitely have to be prepared to act rashly sometimes, if not most times. Nothing ever happens when you’re acting all gentle and obediently following instructions.

You have to courageously take on whatever comes your way, whenever it comes and however it comes — like a hungry wolf in pursuit of his prey. Don’t aspire for a better life like a shy little girl, man up and fiercely stand up for what you believe in. Make a confident affirmation like “This is not my ideal life and I’ll never live it.”

4. Explore

Don’t wait until you become a “millionaire” or until you join the HNWI class before you create time for what matters to you. Use the little resources around you. A leave, a shift or a day-off? Request it from your employer and make it clear that you’re a human not a robot. You know what? Waiting to hit a jackpot before you live your ideal life will only make you seek unending riches with no freedom.

Don’t just follow the laid down rules and wait patiently for a miracle to happen. Become the exception. Go out and become the miracle. Go to shows that lifts your spirit. Go to places, meet new people and try out new things. Don’t follow the same old path. Take adventures. Take risks. New and exciting things happen only when you leave your comfort zone and try out new things.

5. Embrace the lifestyle when it comes

Lastly, once your startups become productive or when you get a better job, use your free time to engage in activities you love. Don’t put on the “busyness” attitude or ignore your ideal life to chase the dollars. Make your happiness priority. Learn to properly blend work and play. Find fun at work and always celebrate every little accomplishment.

“I want to have an epic life. I want to tell my life with big adjectives.” – Isabel Allende

Living that ideal life is traced back to your job and its working condition. You spend a ratio of your time there day in and day out. To live that ideal lifestyle, you must start by redefining your job. If your current job is nowhere near your ideal job, your freedom and happiness are bound to be compromised.

Hence, follow the above tips and exercise them in your life and career in any way applicable. Create a startup if there be a need. Living the life of your dreams is the ideal life and the ideal life is the best life.

How were you able to take your life from boring to an adventure? Please leave your thoughts below!


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How to Change Font Size on WordPress

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This is a tutorial for the video answers to top WordPress questions series that we have been publishing on this site to help users get started with WordPress.

In this tutorial, you will learn:

  • How to modify the size of text within the post and page editor by using default theme styles.
  • How to add custom CSS to globally modify text size on the entire web site.

Steps to Modify the Size of Fonts in WordPress

  1. After logging into the WordPress Dashboard, click Pages. You can do the same for Posts.
  2. Click the Edit link below a page.
  3. Switch the Editor to Visual view.
  4. Click on a paragraph that you would like to modify the text size for.
  5. Choose from the list of styles from the drop down list. Click Update when finished.
  6. The options that show up in the dropdown are defined by the theme being used. There are ways to override the styles on the web site as a whole, if you have a good reason to do so. To do this, you can create your own custom CSS.
  7. In the past, it was suggested to create a child theme in order to create custom CSS. Version 4.7 of WordPress bundles with a Custom CSS tool that allows you to see your changes Live, and without the need for a child theme.
  8. You can install the JetPack plugin, connect it with your WordPress.com account, and choose the Free plan if desired. Now, you can turn on Custom CSS by first going to Jetpack, then Settings, then Appearance.
  9. Make sure that Custom CSS is switched on.
  10. Go to the Appearance Menu, and then click Edit CSS. To continue, you will need to know what CSS classes and IDs to edit the CSS for, which are often theme specific. You can go to the Theme Editor to look at these styles by clicking Appearance and then Editor. You may also use more general selectors such as body.
  11. Look at the code in the video, or on the web page with the written tutorial, to see how to edit the font size for the body tag. Essentially, you type: body, an open squiggly bracket, font-size, a colon, your desired value, a semicolon, then a closing squiggly bracket.
  12. Click Save Stylesheet, then view your web site to see the changes.
  13. Styles are notoriously cached, so if you do not see any changes, it may be for this reason. In general, pressing Shift+Ctrl+R, and possibly Shift+Command+R on a MAC, will clear the cache, hopefully allowing you to see your changes.

Code used within this tutorial:

body {
  font-size: 5rem;
}


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31 Mind Blowing Desmond Tutu Quotes

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Desmond Tutu is a South African social rights activist and retired Anglican bishop. He rose to fame across the world during the 1980’s, as an opponent of apartheid. He was the first black Archbishop of Cape Town and bishop of the Church of the Province of Southern Africa. I’ve just picked up Desmond Tutu & […]


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Seeking Outside Approval Is Giving Our Power Away

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“When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful.” ~Caroline Myss

Back in the winter of 2012, I was devastated by a sudden near-deaf experience (90 percent hearing loss), which led me to a dead end in my IT career.

“You’ve been overworked. Rest is the only way to recuperate,” said every single doctor.

Leaving my corporate sales job left me feeling like a total failure.

I felt lost, confused, and frustrated as darkness swallowed my self-esteem.

“Why did you have to work so hard and not get the credit you deserved?!” 

“Is deafness all you got in return for striving toward excellence all these years?!”

“You are worthless!” 

As an overachiever and a perfectionist, I felt overwhelmed by a shame storm.

I was caught up in bitterness and a sense of injustice until one day I realized that I was battling with myself, and the self-loathing quotient went off the chart.

“What do you want, Universe? Don’t you see that I’m suffering?” I ranted out loud like a mad victim.

Even though spirituality wasn’t my thing at that point in time, I literally “heard” a clear voice: “Own it. Take stock of your life now, Jen.” This triggered me to start asking why in heaven I had gotten myself into this mud hole.

Connecting with My Younger Self

With my eyes closed I saw a seven-year-old girl, the little me. She was taught to be very self-disciplined academically, as she was told to excel and work hard.

Her sole goal was for her parents to put her on a pedestal for being good and intelligent.

Since she came from a family where praise was like a foreign language, validating children for trying hard hadn’t been the parenting style in the house. Instead, there was often an attitude that the children could do better—they could work harder to achieve more.

Hearing her parents give random compliments to other kids at the same age irritated her. She could only draw this conclusion: “Doing my best is not good enough, so I need to try even harder, or else I won’t be worthy of love and attention.”

From then on, she constantly craved compliments and approval.

“Jen, great job, keep up the good work!” Those simple comments were like water to her thirsty soul.

Years later, she became masterful at overachieving, perfecting, and competing, which helped her gain “confidence” through compliments from other people.

If she ever heard a negative comment, it could ruin her whole day. She’d go home discouraged and mentally lash herself for not doing well enough.

She didn’t know what to say without first checking other people’s facial expressions. She lived on their compliments as the life stream of her self-worth. Until one day, she realized she’d lost it all. Her physical and emotional wellbeing had gone bankrupt, but worse her authenticity had gone down the drain.

Even now, I can still feel her pain, the insecurity, the fear of rejection, and the strong need to be loved wrapped underneath a people-pleasing mask.

Path of Returning to the Truth

Deep down in my core, I knew that my mother and father, just like many other typical Asian parents, wanted their children to have better lives, and they believed that would come from in excelling in school so they could get better jobs, make more money, and be prosperous.

I still thought that they should’ve done better, because they weren’t mindful enough to give me the emotional support I needed in the childhood. I got stirred up about it, and I even wanted to confront my parents with a letter to tell them what I thought after all those years.

Just before I was about to take action, I heard something from inside saying, “They did you wrong, didn’t they? They didn’t give you what you needed, did they?”

“They sure did!” I replied.

Then the voice asked, “How do you think you would’ve done if you would’ve been in their shoes, with three kids to raise, with a business to run, with aging parents to take care of, and with a load of family chaos to be sorted out?”

This conversation changed my perspective. I realized that my parents had done the best they could with what they had. They couldn’t give me what they didn’t even have themselves. I began to feel ashamed of my immaturity and selfishness.

This time, the shame level was way stronger than it was when I left my corporate job involuntarily and felt worthless.

Blaming is like putting a Band-Aid on a bullet wound; it never works. I realized that I was the one not letting anybody off the hook while busy swimming in the pool of victimhood.

Lessons Learned

Regaining my hearing after two months was a divine miracle, but I’m grateful that the silence taught me the following lessons about understanding others and releasing the need for approval.

1. Stop seeking validation from others.

It’s great when people believe in us, cheer us on, and make us feel valuable. We love when our partners compliment us or a friend is there to give encouragement.

But you cannot become so dependent on people that you derive your worth and value from how they treat you. It’s easy to become addicted to compliments, addicted to encouragement, addicted to them cheering you on.

But if other people change their minds and stop giving you the compliments you crave, then you’ll feel devalued. If they don’t meet all your expectations, you’ll get discouraged and feel inferior. You’ll start working overtime, people-pleasing to win their approval.

At some point, like a mother weans a baby off a bottle, you have to break your need for external validation.

You no longer need people complimenting you to keep you encouraged. Praise is nice to hear, but you can develop self-sufficiency.

2. Have compassion for others.

The truth is, our friends and family members have their own problems. They are not responsible for keeping us happy and making us feel good about ourselves. Don’t put that extra pressure on them. It’s unfair to the people who are in our lives.

Moreover, sometimes when people don’t give us what we need, it’s because they don’t have it, because nobody gave it to them. If they weren’t raised showing affection to people, and we keep trying to get it from them, we’ll likely end up frustrated.

Maybe they did the best they could. They may have made a decision that we don’t understand, and we may feel like it has put us at a disadvantage, but at least we didn’t have to walk in their shoes.

3. Start approving of yourself.

What people do, or don’t do, doesn’t determine our worth. Our value doesn’t come from another person; it comes from ourselves.

People may not encourage us, but we can encourage ourselves. People may not make us feel special, but we can make ourselves feel special. We’ll have better relationships if we start validating ourselves instead of becoming needy and waiting for other people to give us our approval fix.

Learn how to compliment and validate yourself. Practice affirming: I am strong. I am healthy. I am highly favored. I am beautiful. I am lucky. (Be creative!)

4. Don’t give your power away.

When a person walks away, wrongs us, or even makes hurtful comments, we need to learn to shake off that disrespect.

Don’t believe the lies that we are not talented enough, attractive enough, or good enough. They don’t determine our value. They can’t lessen our self-worth. The only power people have over us is the power we give to them.

We don’t have to play up to people try to win their favor. If they don’t want to be in our lives, it’s actually their loss, not ours.

If you learn this principle of not relying on people for your worth and start generating your own approval and acknowledgment, you won’t feel crushed when somebody doesn’t give you what you expect.

The less we depend on people for validation, the stronger we’ll become and the higher we will go.

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About Jen Yang

Jen Yang is a Self-Love Coach, an empath, and a recovering perfectionist. She is passionate about supporting busy professional women to tune into their own feminine power, tpfeel confident and enthusiastic about their life, relationships, and work, and to claim back their worth. Visit her at Jenyangmetamorphosis.com and on Facebook and Instagram.

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You Don’t Need to Have Your Whole Life Figured Out Right Now

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“On any one day you can massively change the direction of your life.” ~Jim Rohn

Have you ever felt as though you needed to have your whole life figured out right now?

When we’re young, we are often encouraged to consider the same common careers such as being a police officer, firefighter, doctor, lawyer, or teacher. Then in high school, we feel pressure to make a decision because we’ll have to major in something in college.

We may love music, writing, or something that people associate with struggle, only to get bombarded by advice to do something that will make money.

People constantly ask us what we are going to do with our lives. The pressure on all of us is huge.

In college, this pressure only increases, because with a major, now everyone wants to know what you’re going to do with it. For example, I majored in sports medicine and Hispanic studies, and people would constantly ask me about my plans. When I said I wanted to be a physician, there was even more pressure from people. This creates stress and anxiety, and can push someone toward burning out.

There is a certain expectation that we need to pick a traditional career path, especially when we speak to older individuals who chose a career and stayed there until retirement.

The older I get, the more I realize there are many things I want to accomplish in this life, and I have no desire to stick to one career and be defined by it.

There are parts of me that are strategic, other parts that are itching for me to take crazy risks, and others that tell me I want to be the best doctor. There are so many things to fulfill that I am not quite sure what I want to do for the rest of my life.

I know there are other people who feel the same way. If that’s you, I want you to know that…

It’s okay to not know what you want to do, or to have a plan for a lifelong career.

There is time. Time to look at different careers and do as we please. No longer do we have to follow the traditional route of getting a job right away and sticking to that one job right for the rest of our lives. If we want to change, there is a way to do it.

After graduating from college, I traveled around Europe, took some classes, worked in the entertainment industry, and grew as an individual as I was exposed to different areas of life.

I met many different types of people who all provided different perspectives. The amount of learning and knowledge that I absorbed throughout these meetings was more than I could have gotten from any type of formal education.

Currently having my vision set on being a physician is great. I love medicine, and as of now, I want to be a doctor. However, I am not defined by my title of physician, because later on I may change careers. I may decide it’s time to open a business or join a jazz band and travel the United States.

I’m not sure what I will be doing for the rest of my life, but I know that if I continuously remind myself to have a smile on my face, I will be happy.

You don’t need to worry about other people’s opinions.

One of the things I struggle with is worrying about what other people think. The majority of people I met while working at a hospice center told me they were not afraid of failure or afraid of doing what they truly wanted with their life; they were afraid of what people would think of them.

This was eye-opening, because I realized how often we limit ourselves based on what other people say we should do, and that their opinions don’t matter because they are not living our lives.

The people who tell you no and criticize are often the ones who are not following their own dreams. They may have been knocked down by not succeeding and may have become jaded by the world. You don’t have to live your life based on what they say.

When I tell people that being a doctor is only a fraction of what I will accomplish in my lifetime, more than half of them make a comment or show through their body language that they don’t believe in my plan.

It’s frustrating how even the people closest to me do not support some of my views on life, and they make sure to let me know it. I am still learning to not be affected by this because it’s challenging, but I urge you to do the same.

Tell more and more people about what you want to do with your life because then it will become your truth, which will make it much easier to stick to your plan.

At the beginning of my undergraduate career, there were over 100 people interested in the pre-medical track. By the end of my college experience, there were around twenty who were still dedicated to the pursuit of medical school.

Time and time again, people told us how hard it was going to be, the sacrifices we were going to have to make, and how there were always people better than us. Those opinions discouraged the majority of my peers. As hard as it has been, sticking through it has been the most rewarding experience ever.

You can create a worthwhile future while enjoying the moment.

When we get wrapped up in believing we need to know what we’re going to do, we can lose sight of the present. I know many people who are constantly worried about the future. They’re afraid things won’t work out, and they never truly live in the moment.

We need to think about the future in order to create it, but we can actually do that most effectively when we focus primarily on the present.

People who diet often talk in terms of the future and how much weight they need to lose, but if they were to focus solely on the day and what needed to get done, before they know it, the results would show!

This kind of focus can be challenging, as this requires us to engage in positive habits every day in order to find success in what we desire. However, when we become conscious of what we must do every day, we can then relax knowing that in due time, the results of our consistency will show.

It’s okay to not know what you want to do for the rest of your life. I see a negative stigma associated with people who do not have a clear plan for their career path, but there’s nothing wrong with going with the flow and allowing yourself to grow, evolve, and change.

What is life if you make it to the end and do not have any exciting, crazy memories to look back on and remember with a smile on your face?

We should all go out and explore many different fields to see what we truly love—and we may need to do this several times throughout our lives.

Whether it’s working from a remote location, working with children, or becoming a missionary, do it all and see what you like best!

At any time we can change the course of our lives. It might not always be easy, but all we have to do is put one foot forward, knowing we’re creating a change that will bring us more joy in life.

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About Armando Quintana

Armando Quintana III is a master’s student and signed model. One of his main goals is to be a physician and educate people on the natural healing powers of the body. In addition to being a public speaker on alternative ways to reach success, he mentors high school and college students. He can be reached through social media at @armandoq3 or  at mfmanifesto.com.

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How Art Affects the Development of Intelligence

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Any child deserves all rights to get an art education.  In fact, art helps to form the development of the whole child’s development. It doesn’t only prepare it for the life but fills with joy and happiness. Art is valued much for its ability to improve cognitive skills and intelligence. Gifted and intelligent children have been always much valued. But who is a talented and intelligent child? It’s really difficult to identify this.

Importance of Art Education

Due to music and various images, it becomes easier to make kids become more interested in the studying process. No one would ever try doing something if he is not interested in it. And art works perfectly in such a case. According to the observations, it’s known that children become very happy when hearing the sound of music they play with their own hands. The most important is to be occupied in art each day. If you start playing the piano, you would do a progress, when doing it day by day. The same with painting. A continuous occupation with art leads to the development of confidence and self-assurance. Once your child starts being engaged in painting or playing music and does it daily, he would gradually become more confident about this world.

Why are Habits so Important?

Habits are equal to success. No matter what you do, the result would always depend on your habits. There are many children, who achieve aims by their own efforts, others believe in luck and some do it day by day, developing habits. In fact, the last are one of the most successful, because if you once formed a habit, changing it becomes a real challenge further. Art is one of the best ways to make children more creative. Creativity is one of the key moments of developing a child’s intelligence. In fact, focusing on scores at college is not enough. That’s why it’s very important for parents to understand how art is significant in the life of their children.

Why is Art So Important?

Art offers a lot of intrinsic and extrinsic benefits to the development of any child.  Intrinsic benefits include:
  • Creativity;
  • Imagination;
  • A chance to experience beauty and joy.
Extrinsic benefits are the following:
  • Better engagement in the process of learning;
  • Better metacognition;
  • Enhanced self-confidence;
  • Developed social skills.
What is Intelligence? In fact, intelligence is not a big volume of facts and other knowledge, accumulated in your brain. It’s your ability to learn new information, be able to retain process and use it in practice.

How Music Affects a Child’s Brain?

All of us know about Mozart effect. Don’t you know? It’s a notion, which describes the process of listening to Mozart music, at the same time increasing your intelligence. According to a number of experiments, it was found out that many people got a lot of visual-spatial skills improvements when listening to this kind of music. However, it’s not yet clear whether the passive listening may contribute to the development of intelligence. But what about becoming active in this kind of occupation? The researchers say that being engaged in music is able to change the course of the whole brain. There is evidence that certain music play can easily improve working memory, self-regulation, and even self-confidence. In fact, everyone can stimulate his brain, because art is accessible to all of us. If you lack self-esteem, arts will certainly help you developing it. Moreover, it will increase the levels of dopamine, a neurotransmitter, which is responsible for good mood and motivation. It would also contribute to better concentration, drive and focus. Due to art lesson benefits in childhood, one can further benefit from them in adulthood. Art benefits include:
  • Increased brain plasticity;
  • Better fluid intelligence;
  • Higher IQ;
  • Better attention span;
  • Improves overall behavior;
  • Reduces impulsiveness.
According to one study at Stanford University, students, engaged in art, had the following characteristics, in comparison with those, who weren’t:
  • They won more academic awards;
  • Received more community service awards;
  • Got higher SAR results.

Art – Brain Food?

In fact, art is a brain food. For example, if you start playing the piano, it will help developing your coordination, reaction, social participation. Telling the truth, it’s not obligatory to be professional in some kind of art to get cognitive benefits from it. If you even have the slightest exposure to art, it will certainly make you smart. Due to it, we start thinking critically, which simultaneously increases our intelligence. It’s not enough to take a brush into one’s hands- before creating a painting you should give yourself a thousand of questions. Of course, it requires time and efforts, but the result is worth that. Author bio: Alexandra Foster is an ex-English teacher who helps parents/students and organizations with educational planning. She is a tech savvy, who loves education and technology, that makes studying process more convenient and collaborative. Currently working with Noplag.com team as a consultant."

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Don’t Give Your Power Away: Why We Need to Stop Seeking Approval

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“When you do not seek or need approval, you are at your most powerful.” ~Caroline Myss

Back in the winter of 2012, I was devastated by a sudden near-deaf experience (90 percent hearing loss), which led me to a dead end in my IT career.

“You’ve been overworked. Rest is the only way to recuperate,” said every single doctor.

Leaving my corporate sales job left me feeling like a total failure.

I felt lost, confused, and frustrated as darkness swallowed my self-esteem.

“Why did you have to work so hard and not get the credit you deserved?!” 

“Is deafness all you got in return for striving toward excellence all these years?!”

“You are worthless!” 

As an overachiever and a perfectionist, I felt overwhelmed by a shame storm.

I was caught up in bitterness and a sense of injustice until one day I realized that I was battling with myself, and the self-loathing quotient went off the chart.

“What do you want, Universe? Don’t you see that I’m suffering?” I ranted out loud like a mad victim.

Even though spirituality wasn’t my thing at that point in time, I literally “heard” a clear voice: “Own it. Take stock of your life now, Jen.” This triggered me to start asking why in heaven I had gotten myself into this mud hole.

Connecting with My Younger Self

With my eyes closed I saw a seven-year-old girl, the little me. She was taught to be very self-disciplined academically, as she was told to excel and work hard.

Her sole goal was for her parents to put her on a pedestal for being good and intelligent.

Since she came from a family where praise was like a foreign language, validating children for trying hard hadn’t been the parenting style in the house. Instead, there was often an attitude that the children could do better—they could work harder to achieve more.

Hearing her parents give random compliments to other kids at the same age irritated her. She could only draw this conclusion: “Doing my best is not good enough, so I need to try even harder, or else I won’t be worthy of love and attention.”

From then on, she constantly craved compliments and approval.

“Jen, great job, keep up the good work!” Those simple comments were like water to her thirsty soul.

Years later, she became masterful at overachieving, perfecting, and competing, which helped her gain “confidence” through compliments from other people.

If she ever heard a negative comment, it could ruin her whole day. She’d go home discouraged and mentally lash herself for not doing well enough.

She didn’t know what to say without first checking other people’s facial expressions. She lived on their compliments as the life stream of her self-worth. Until one day, she realized she’d lost it all. Her physical and emotional wellbeing had gone bankrupt, but worse her authenticity had gone down the drain.

Even now, I can still feel her pain, the insecurity, the fear of rejection, and the strong need to be loved wrapped underneath a people-pleasing mask.

Path of Returning to the Truth

Deep down in my core, I knew that my mother and father, just like many other typical Asian parents, wanted their children to have better lives, and they believed that would come from in excelling in school so they could get better jobs, make more money, and be prosperous.

I still thought that they should’ve done better, because they weren’t mindful enough to give me the emotional support I needed in the childhood. I got stirred up about it, and I even wanted to confront my parents with a letter to tell them what I thought after all those years.

Just before I was about to take action, I heard something from inside saying, “They did you wrong, didn’t they? They didn’t give you what you needed, did they?”

“They sure did!” I replied.

Then the voice asked, “How do you think you would’ve done if you would’ve been in their shoes, with three kids to raise, with a business to run, with aging parents to take care of, and with a load of family chaos to be sorted out?”

This conversation changed my perspective. I realized that my parents had done the best they could with what they had. They couldn’t give me what they didn’t even have themselves. I began to feel ashamed of my immaturity and selfishness.

This time, the shame level was way stronger than it was when I left my corporate job involuntarily and felt worthless.

Blaming is like putting a Band-Aid on a bullet wound; it never works. I realized that I was the one not letting anybody off the hook while busy swimming in the pool of victimhood.

Lessons Learned

Regaining my hearing after two months was a divine miracle, but I’m grateful that the silence taught me the following lessons about understanding others and releasing the need for approval.

1. Stop seeking validation from others.

It’s great when people believe in us, cheer us on, and make us feel valuable. We love when our partners compliment us or a friend is there to give encouragement.

But you cannot become so dependent on people that you derive your worth and value from how they treat you. It’s easy to become addicted to compliments, addicted to encouragement, addicted to them cheering you on.

But if other people change their minds and stop giving you the compliments you crave, then you’ll feel devalued. If they don’t meet all your expectations, you’ll get discouraged and feel inferior. You’ll start working overtime, people-pleasing to win their approval.

At some point, like a mother weans a baby off a bottle, you have to break your need for external validation.

You no longer need people complimenting you to keep you encouraged. Praise is nice to hear, but you can develop self-sufficiency.

2. Have compassion for others.

The truth is, our friends and family members have their own problems. They are not responsible for keeping us happy and making us feel good about ourselves. Don’t put that extra pressure on them. It’s unfair to the people who are in our lives.

Moreover, sometimes when people don’t give us what we need, it’s because they don’t have it, because nobody gave it to them. If they weren’t raised showing affection to people, and we keep trying to get it from them, we’ll likely end up frustrated.

Maybe they did the best they could. They may have made a decision that we don’t understand, and we may feel like it has put us at a disadvantage, but at least we didn’t have to walk in their shoes.

3. Start approving of yourself.

What people do, or don’t do, doesn’t determine our worth. Our value doesn’t come from another person; it comes from ourselves.

People may not encourage us, but we can encourage ourselves. People may not make us feel special, but we can make ourselves feel special. We’ll have better relationships if we start validating ourselves instead of becoming needy and waiting for other people to give us our approval fix.

Learn how to compliment and validate yourself. Practice affirming: I am strong. I am healthy. I am highly favored. I am beautiful. I am lucky. (Be creative!)

4. Don’t give your power away.

When a person walks away, wrongs us, or even makes hurtful comments, we need to learn to shake off that disrespect.

Don’t believe the lies that we are not talented enough, attractive enough, or good enough. They don’t determine our value. They can’t lessen our self-worth. The only power people have over us is the power we give to them.

We don’t have to play up to people try to win their favor. If they don’t want to be in our lives, it’s actually their loss, not ours.

If you learn this principle of not relying on people for your worth and start generating your own approval and acknowledgment, you won’t feel crushed when somebody doesn’t give you what you expect.

The less we depend on people for validation, the stronger we’ll become and the higher we will go.

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About Jen Yang

Jen Yang is a Self-Love Coach, an empath, and a recovering perfectionist. She is passionate about supporting busy professional women to tune into their own feminine power, tpfeel confident and enthusiastic about their life, relationships, and work, and to claim back their worth. Visit her at Jenyangmetamorphosis.com and on Facebook and Instagram.

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4 Powerful Methods to Reach Financial Success In Life

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In life, one of the major goals for many people is to be financially successful so they can live life without worrying how they’re going to pay their next bill. Financial independence isn’t created overnight.

You’ll find, those who are financially successful, are those who have worked hard a majority of their lives to get to where they are now. If you’re tired of living pay cheque to pay cheque, this expert guide will give you the powerful methods to reach financial success in life without worrying about money.

Here are 4 ways to become financially successful in life:

1. Ignore The Status Of Others

You may have heard the saying ‘keeping up with the Joneses’. It’s important that when you want to reach financial success that you ignore the status of others. You don’t need to keep up with what others are doing.

Your friends may be spending large amounts of money on insignificant things, this doesn’t mean you have to do the same. Many people fall into the trap of keeping up with others who are living the high life. The problem with this is that it can drain your funds quickly. You need to remember that although their lifestyle and income may be a lot different than yours, when it all comes down to it, no one cares about what you drive, where you live, or how you dress.

They care more about how you treat them. When you stop comparing yourself to others and focus on your own financial well being instead, you’re on the right path to becoming more successfully free in life.

“The single most powerful asset we all have is our mind. If it is trained well, it can create enormous wealth in what seems to be an instant.”
Robert T. Kiyosaki

2. Only Spend What You Need To

Another area where many people fall short is spending more money on things they want, rather than things they need. Many people use their money on items that aren’t really needed. If you focus on spending only what you need and use the rest of your money to pay down debt, or placing it in savings, you’ll find that over time you’ll be in a much better financial state.

A good way to work out how much you can afford to save is by:

  • Tracking your income and what you make every month.
  • Deducting your important expenses such as water, electricity, food and house rates etc.
  • Keep a small amount for spending on yourself otherwise you will become stale. Spending $20 a week or fortnight is much better than spending $70.
  • Place any additional funds, even if it’s $10, into a savings account.

Before making your next purchase, ask yourself, do you really need this or do you merely just want it?

3. Avoid Unnecessary Debt

Many people fall into the trap of taking out a loan in order to upgrade something that really doesn’t need to be upgraded at that time. Examples of this include upgrading a car, buying a new boat, or renovating the home. The key here is to decide whether or not you can wait and save the money first.

Think positively about money and debt . The process of becoming financially secure is all about thinking positively about money and how you will get out of debt. It’s a good idea to sit down and really analyze your income and debts to see where your money is coming from and where it is going.

Consider what we call good debt and bad debt.  Good debt is where you may have a loan on an investment property and, depending on your circumstances, may be eligible to access some taxation concessions. Bad debt on the other hand, is a high interest debt that simply eats away at your income such as credit card debt or purchases made on a store card.  Focus on paying down bad debt first.

4. Rewrite Your Life Goals and Create A Strategy

Last but not least, it’s important to set major financial life goals that you want to work towards. When you write down your goals you’ll begin to understand what’s required to make them become a reality.

Some things to ask yourself when you’re thinking about your goals:

  • Where do you want to be in 5 years/10 years/retirement?
  • Are there any foreseeable expenses that will emerge that may affect your ability to reach your goals? Such as children’s education or caring for elderly parents.
  • Do you have any debts that will need to be paid off before you reach your goals?
  • How much income will you need to achieve your goals?
  • Do you have any family or other dependents that rely on you?
  • What would happen to your family and dependents should you lose your source of income?
  • Are your goals realistic given your financial resources?

“Obstacles can’t stop you. Problems can’t stop you. Most of all, other people can’t stop you. Only you can stop you.” — Jeffrey Gitomer

Becoming financially successful is all about the road you take to get there. Even just making some small changes such as reining in credit card spending, paying off credit card debt and starting a savings plan can make a significant difference to your financial well being.

To achieve larger goals such as planning for a comfortable retirement, it’s worthwhile speaking to a qualified financial adviser. A financial adviser can help you to define your goals and work with you on a financial strategy that’s designed to make your goals become a reality.

What are you doing to reach financial success in your life? Please leave your thoughts below!


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