Feeling Stuck in Life? You Are Exactly Where You Need To Be

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Feeling Stuck in Life

All of us have dreams. One woman in particular, has always dreamed of becoming a star, singing in front of an international audience, and sharing her golden voice with the world. This was all she ever wanted. It made sense, after all. Born into a musical family, her love for singing was nurtured early on to the sounds of laughter and the piano. Despite hardships she faced, she knew this was what she wanted to do. Until one day, when it all came crashing down. The music that she loved – and whom loved her back – ceased to play. No one heard her sing for almost two years. The woman, whose hope never faltered, found herself jobless and alone. Believe it or not, this is the story of world-acclaimed singer, Susan Boyle. Who would have thought that before that historic moment in ‘Britain's Got Talent’, she was at a standstill? Just when she thought that life – and music – was done with her, the world turns and she’s right where she needed to be all along. If you, or someone you know, is stuck in life right now (for whatever reason), don’t be discouraged. But don’t be in denial either. This may sound strange, but accept the fact that maybe, all this ‘bad luck’ was supposed to happen for a reason. Just like Susan eventually went up on stage to where she truly belonged, you too, will get to stand on the platform of your dreams. But first…

1) Understand What Got You There

“In order to move on, you must understand why you felt what you did and why you no longer need to feel it.”
When people generally say they’re ‘stuck in life’, it could mean many things. Some are like Susan, who suffered from a tragic loss and now they don’t know what to do after that. Others could be living the dream – but they feel empty and stagnant inside. For a few folks, they might have given up on their dreams, convincing themselves that following the practical route is best decision nowadays. Whatever the reason, feeling stuck is normal. At some point, everybody goes through with it. It’s different for everyone, and it could happen to both the young and old. But the important thing is to acknowledge that yes, YOU are stuck – but that’s okay. Whether you’re at the crossroads of a job change or you’re grieving from a loss, allow yourself to be stuck. Feel everything that goes with it: the emptiness, the misery, the lonely nights. Cry, shout, laugh, and cry some more. When you allow yourself to feel all these, you’re unknowingly letting go of what binds you. When you allow yourself to immerse in the experience of feeling stuck – you can begin to understand WHY it happened. And there’s no better peace than finally knowing why you felt the way you did.

2) Keep Moving Despite The Odds

“Sometimes you have to do things when sad things happen.”
According to life coach Stephanie Zamora, it’s important that we take action despite feeling stuck in life. Remember: change is inevitable. Even if you don’t decide to move, things will happen eventually. After analyzing your feelings and immersing yourself in a whirlwind of emotions, this is the next logical step. And believe it or not, you’ll eventually find yourself doing something despite nagging doubts, loneliness, or fears. After Susan Boyle’s mother died, she kept volunteering at her local church. She did this even though she was out of work and most probably felt lost about her situation. It is through this simple act that ultimately led her to the stage. Had she merely stayed at home, things might have turned out differently. It’s easy to just lie in bed and feel sorry for yourself. But even so, life continues. And if you don’t eventually catch up, it will move forward without you. You don’t need to immediately do something drastic for it to be called action. Simply falling into old routines is enough. Not only does this serve as a distraction, but it’s also an avenue for life to bring you better opportunities. Continue going to work, doing household chores, visiting friends, or volunteering in your community. Often, the best way to get ‘unstuck’ is to stick with old habits. After all, our routines provide order in our chaos.

You’re Stuck in Life Because You Need To Be

“That’s the thing. Sometimes when you sacrifice something precious, you’re not really losing it. You’re just passing it on to someone else.”
Years from now, you’re going to look back at these incidents and laugh about them. You’ll smile at the thought that once upon a time, you felt lost and afraid. One day, you’ll share how you overcame these challenges with your grandchildren. Maybe the reason why you’re stuck in life right now is because you NEED to be. Perhaps you’ve been going too fast. This is probably life’s way of telling you to ‘slow down’. During your reflections and in your solitude, maybe you’ll realize the answer. Or maybe not. But in the meantime, have faith that all things pass. Troubles end, and day follows the night. Dreams die so new ones could take its place. You’re reading this today because you’re exactly where you need to be. And so am I. --- Cristina Antonio is the EIC of scoopfed.com and a writer of all things related to world news, movies, real estate, health, or social media. She’s currently focused on helping healthcare workers find better career opportunities through Locum Tenens. Cris also enjoys painting, collecting toys, reading German novels, and lurking the Web.

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4 Ways to Squeeze the Most Out of Every Minute of Your Day

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“This day I will drink every minute to its full. I will savor its taste and give thanks. I will maketh every hour count and each minute I will trade only for something of value.” I say this quote to myself every morning. It’s from The Greatest Salesman in the World, a book written by Og Mandino containing ten scrolls, of which each scroll is meant to be read three times a day for thirty days.

After reading it for a month this one quote stuck with me because I believe that time is our greatest asset. Time is like a currency – the way we manage it will either lead us to failure or success in the long term. Therefore if we invest our time in the most profitable areas throughout the day, we are setting ourselves up for ultimate success.

But the thing is, it’s very easy to think we are spending our time wisely – on things like everyday maintenance of our businesses. Whereas in reality our time could be leveraged much more effectively.

Here’s my most effective methods of leveraging your time every day, so you start increasing the ROI on your daily 1440 minutes:

1. Time tracking

I believe that measuring, reviewing and refining is the surefire way to make consistent progress in any area of your life. By tracking how you spend each minute of your day it makes you become aware of precisely where you are wasting time. I recommend buying a journal and writing down how long each thing you do throughout your day takes.

For example: 7:03AM – 7:08AM – shower, 7:08AM – 7:15AM – shave, etc. You can also use an app such as Hours to save time on writing everything down. I know this sounds incredibly tedious but it will pay off hugely when you start to take action to eliminate those time wasting areas.

When I started time tracking I found that I was wasting at least an hour every day on preparing meals. To eliminate that wasted time I learn how to make a breakfast in 5 minutes – scrambled egg whites with spinach (3 minutes) and a protein shake with oats (2 minutes). I also started bulk preparing my lunches on a sunday so it would take 2 minutes every day to prepare lunch rather than 30 minutes. That adds up to valuable hours saved every week which I now spend working and exercising.

“It’s really clear that the most precious resource we all have is time.” – Steve Jobs

2. Interim time is learning time

We all have at least 30-60 minutes in our days where we physically can’t be working. Specifically, times such as showering/getting changed and walking/driving. In this time I always listen to podcasts and audiobooks. I ensure it relates to what I’m currently working on in my life.

For example, I may be working on a social media strategy for a new client, I’ll listen to audio specifically related to social media marketing in their industry. Or perhaps I’ll be focusing on a fitness regime to reduce body fat. I may even listen to a book on pitching when driving to a potential client to pitch to them.

This interval time doesn’t seem like much but it adds up over the week. Learning is important to make progress but taking action is where we really see results. So prioritise your work when you can and do your learning only when you physically can’t be working.

3. Is it worth your time?

In order to prioritize your time, only do tasks that are actually worth your time. To do this, you must first figure out how much your time is worth. Let’s say you earn $4000 per month – that’s $1000 per week. Divide that by how many hours you work in a week – let’s say it’s 60. That means an hour of your time is worth $16.67.

So is it really worth washing your car or cleaning your house when you can pay someone $10 per hour to do it for you? Or is it worth posting to a client’s social media when you can pay someone to do it for $5 per hour? You may think that you’ll earn more money by doing everything yourself, but in the long run you’re actually reducing your value by not outsourcing the menial stuff.

“Managing your time without setting priorities is like shooting randomly and calling whatever you hit the target.” – Peter Turla

4. Only work on your IGTs

IGTs (income generating tasks) is a term I came across in Rob Moore’s book, ‘Life Leverage’. In it, he explains that a golfer takes 40% of his shots with 7% of his golf clubs (the putter). Therefore he should be spending more time on practicing his putting than on the other clubs.

At least your top 3 items on your to-do list should be you IGTs in order of priority. Say you own a marketing agency – your top three IGTs for a particular day could be:

  • Make 5 door-to-door cold pitches. (each successful pitch could mean $1000+ income every month so this is an obvious IGT)
  • Write 1000 words of your social media marketing eBook (this will be given to potential clients as part of your sales funnel – also an IGT)
  • Create a new Facebook ad campaign for a client (successful ad campaign = money from commissions. Another IGT)

Focusing on the tasks that will generate the highest amount of profit in the shortest amount of time is the top way of investing your time. By focusing the majority of your day on your IGTs you are squeezing all you can out of each minute invested.

So there you have it. By committing to at least one of these you will not only save valuable minutes but make more progress within each minute. I recommend starting by tracking your time for at least a month. Then figure out ways to get back wasted time. Then use that saved time on your income generating tasks. This way you’re literally making twice as much progress on time you didn’t even have to spare before.

How do you manage to squeeze every minute out of your day? Please leave your thoughts below!

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Stop Living The Traditional Social Rules If You Want To Ditch Mediocrity And Start Playing Big

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“What are the lessons people most often learn too late in life?” — a question that hits thousands of people on Quora. Guess what’s topped the list? Following the convention is said to be one of the things people regret the most later in their lives.

You may be surprised: isn’t following the convention a quality of a good citizen, the quality of being a good sheep?

The brutal truth is, however, following the convention is an obstacle on your path to success. It leads you to nowhere but mediocrity.

The old rules only yield mediocrity.

The cruel reality is that only very few of us would enjoy the taste of success. The others, no.

This echoes the 80/20 law proposed by the Italian economist Vilfredo Pareto. An example illustrating this law is that 80% of the wealth in a society is enjoyed by only 20% of the population. The gist of this theory is that only the minority, or the elite, will succeed. And the other 80% of people will remain at the average level.

Given the convention is set by the majority of people, following the convention is mimicking what the majority is doing. This, unfortunately, leads most people to mediocrity where they settle down and stay in their comfort zone.

As Darren Hardy once said,

“Run towards the things everyone else is running away from.”

If you are unsatisfied with your current position and want to ignites changes in your life, don’t be afraid to break some rules, and don’t be afraid to do something everyone else avoids doing.

But breaking the rules is never easy. It could build enemies.

Very likely, the one who defies the convention will be considered as the outcast by the majority.

After all, humans are what the scientists call as the social animals, among which the one who does not comply with the norm is classified as the abnormal ones.

Sometimes, being unconventional could exert your full potential.

The famous business magnate Bill Gates was originally a Harvard University student back in the day.[1] However, because he wanted to start a business, he dropped out of one of the most prestigious and highly-ranked schools in the world. After getting admitted to one of the top colleges and decided to quit as a young kid, most people saw Bill Gates’ action foolish. But eventually, he proved others wrong and pursued an amazing career and founded Microsoft, one of the leading tech companies.

If you watched the movie Hacksaw Ridge (hang on spoiler ahead!), you’d understand that breaking the rules would mean people going against you. But when you stay true to yourself, instead of blindly following the rules, you’ll always experience something different from the crowd.

Unquestionably, punting against the counter-current is a daunting journey, yet it is also a rewarding one as you are setting your foot on a new path as a pioneer.

Let your voice soar anyway.

We all have a voice inside telling us what is the right thing to do. If you catch that voice, be it tiny or not, do not forsake it.

Think about it – you have things you want to achieve, but often society or others tell us otherwise. We are not listening to our voices, which makes us miss out on great things that we could have accomplished.

One of the most highly regarded poets and novelists of all time Rudyard Kipling was told by an editor that he did not know how to use the English language.[2] This comment did not stop him from pursuing a career in writing though, he knew what his strengths were and later he produced amazing literary works that are still very well-known this day.

Or take Michael Jordan as an example. He was considered too short to play at his high school basketball team,[3] but with his passion for sports, he was very determined to be a great player. After practicing for a year, he was admitted to the team and that’s how his professional athletic career began.

Sometimes, we are too afraid to go with our guts, because we are scared to bear the consequences or face failures. At the end of the day, the only person who is responsible for yourself is you, not others. And you will badly regret the things you did not do far more than the things you did that were wrong.

Choose the path now

I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence:
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.—Robert Frost

Which one you would like to choose? And that makes all the difference when you look back at the end of your life. So there are two roads stretching before you now, the one most people take, and the one no one dares to travel.

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What Are You Hungry For? The Real Causes Of Overeating

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We’ve all been there: we went through a lot of stress and sleepless nights because of our newborn and so we chose to comfort ourselves with a big bucket of ice-cream. Hectic schedules and taking care of our children can often make us feel like nobody understands our troubles or we simply don’t feel like talking about it.

When you experience a burn-out of any kind, it’s easy to form a habit of binge-eating in front of a TV. And then you fall into a vicious circle and feel terribly guilty after the third bag of chips.

Poor nutrition causes feelings of fatigue, depression, and nervousness. Overeating is a direct consequence of an unbalanced emotional state or a long-term unhealthy behavior. Most frequently, our bodies try to cope with constant changes in blood sugar levels and hormonal imbalance, making it harder for a person to be productive, focused, and lose weight.

What are you hungry for? Read on to find out what causes overeating and how to deal with it.

Stress is taking its toll

High stress levels are the most frequent reason for emotional overeating as we use food to cope with anxiety. Researchers from Harvard explained the connection between increased levels of cortisol and disbalance of insulin levels – and food cravings most people experience after going through a stressful period.

When we experience short-term stress, we’re likely to lose our appetites. But when we’re exposed to it on a daily basis, overeating becomes a system for coping. Low blood sugar caused by rigorous diets, skipping meals, or poor nutrition is the reason why your body craves high-fat and sugary foods.

See Also: 9 Ways We Can Reduce Our Stress Level 

Physical activity puts you back on track

do yoga

When we feel low or depressed, it’s most probably due to a drop in serotonin levels. This is caused by lack of sleep or when we exhaust ourselves with great amounts of work, without leisure time or activities that bring us pleasure.

Instead of reaching for comfort food for a quick fix, try committing to some sort of physical activity. Exercising releases serotonin which is responsible for maintaining an optimal sleeping cycle, regulating mood and appetite. It is also a great way to handle stress, promote good mental health, and make that “feel good“ feeling stick for a while.

Try yoga and meditation as they will increase your metabolism, help you tranquilize and relax, and become more aware of your body and its needs. Jogging and cycling are also great options, as well as power walking. Consider using a body tracker app to measure real progress and motivate yourself, as scales won’t reflect your success. Muscles weigh more than fat so you might be seeing higher numbers on the scale when in fact – you are stronger and fitter than before.  

Don’t eat your emotions

Over a longer period of time, overeating can shut off the hormone that signals when we’re full which is a certain path to obesity, a recent study has shown. By repeatedly consuming excess calories, our body becomes overwhelmed and so cells stop producing uroguanylin, responsible for telling us we’re full.

This can be regulated with a workout regime and mindful eating. By shifting your perspective gradually, you can start perceiving food as precious fuel for your body – not a way to cope with negative emotions.

Focus on your calorie intake and keep a food journal to control your portions. Analyze the reasons you feel the need to overeat.

Is it triggered by some emotionally heavy situation you’ve recently experienced? Do you feel the lack of love from your closest ones? By mapping out your problems, you can focus on handling them more effectively instead of using food as a substitute.  

Understand your body’s needs

healthy alternative

Your cravings are indicators of the nutritional deficiency your body is experiencing. Whether you feel like eating something sweet and creamy, or extremely salty – you’re most likely to reach out to simple carbs (i.e. plain sugar) as they penetrate your blood stream almost immediately, giving you a nice sugar rush or feeling of fullness.

However, there are healthier alternatives. If you’re craving chocolate, your body lacks magnesium. A healthy alternative to milk chocolate is raw cacao, fruits, nuts, or seeds. If you feel like eating bread or pasta, you need nitrogen which can also be found in high protein foods (e.g. fatty fish, meat, or beans). If you crave for salty foods, you need chloride and silicon which are best consumed with goat milk, nuts, and cashews.

When you consume too much sugar, your body gets addicted to it. Don’t cut off all the sugar at once but do it gradually: your body will go through withdrawal and it will be exhausting. Drink lemon water to get rid of toxins and increase your liquid intake.

See Also: 7 Healthy Foods That Will Fill You Up and Prevent Overeating

With effort and devotion, you can beat food cravings and ensure a healthier lifestyle for yourself. Your body is a temple so treat it with respect.


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Dot Com Lunch – Do It for The Children Edition

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On this episode of the Dot Com Lunch, Sally tries to raise money for her school jog-a-thon, I show off the GiantSquid lav mic for the Sennheiser G3, and wait for Apple to deliver my two 27″ 5K monitors.

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How to Break the Bad Habits That Hold You Back in Life

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“You’ll never change your life until you change something you do daily. The secret of your success if found in your daily routine.” ~John C. Maxwell

We all have bad habits. The problem is that many of our habits are so deeply ingrained that we don’t even notice them anymore. If we do, we make excuses to hang onto them.

If you’ve tried to change your habits to no avail, maybe it’s time to try something different. The steps below will help you succeed.

1. Become aware of the status quo.

Does this sound familiar? You set your mind to do something good for yourself. Maybe you tell yourself that you’re going to make better use of your time or lose weight. You’re excited and committed. You set a goal, and you plod ahead.

A few days go by, and you’re doing great. Then something happens to make you fall off the wagon. You feel like a failure. Your goal seems impossible. You go back to your old ways.

This cycle happens over and over again.

Your first mistake is setting a goal without becoming fully aware of your current situation.

You have to define the problem before you can even contemplate a solution.

Instead of jumping straight to change, start by noticing what is going on now. Do this for a week.

Some questions you can answer during your observation include:

  • What is your bad habit?
  • How do you feel when you’re engaging in your bad habit?
  • How do you feel when you’re not doing it?
  • Do you typically do anything before or after the bad habit?
  • Is there a behavior or emotion that brings on the bad habit?
  • Why do you want to break this habit?

It’s not enough to simply read these questions, nodding and telling yourself that you’re going to make an effort to think about them over the next week.

The best way to approach this exercise differently is to take notes. Write in a journal every night, or keep track of the answers to these questions every day on your smartphone. Call a friend to let them know what you observed every day.

The best part of this step is that you can’t fail. You’re not trying to meet a goal; you’re just observing.

The current bad habit I’m trying to fight with is watching too much TV.

I’m telling myself that after work I need to do X, Y, and Z, but I end up watching new episodes of my favorite TV series, then a movie on Netflix. Bam! All evening is gone, and I didn’t do anything productive. From time to time, it’s great to have a free evening and just do nothing, but it shouldn’t be most evenings during the week.

2. Use visualization.

Goals are great. You can’t get to where you’re going if you have no idea what your destination is. However, a goal needs to be more than words on paper to be meaningful.

Many people never achieve their goals because they don’t have a clear picture of what they’ll do when they succeed.

Someone who is trying to break the habit of spending frivolously may have trouble staying away from shopping because they don’t have a specific plan for what they’ll do with the money they save. That person may not have visualized the rewarding feeling of saving money in the first place, so the rewarding feeling of shopping wins out.

Instead of just setting a verbal goal, feel the outcome with every part of your being. Visualize what your life will be like when you break the habit. What will your daily routine look like? Will there be different people in your life once the habit is broken?

In addition to visualizing the logistics, try to access the emotions you’ll feel when the habit is broken. Will you feel excited, calm, or balanced? Sit with those emotions for some time every day. Conjure them up so that you begin to adopt the motivation for change throughout your body and mind.

What do I see for myself? Working more on my website, changing my job, going to the gym, spending more time with my family and close friends, and feeling more fulfilled and happier with my life.

3. Recognize when you’re making excuses.

Everyone makes excuses, including me.

  • I still have time. I’ll start doing it tomorrow.
  • I did enough this week. It can wait few more days to be done.
  • I don’t have time to do it today (because I wasted it playing games).

The most common excuses in the book? “I can’t” or “I don’t want to.”

What you really mean is, “I don’t do that now, so it seems too hard to change.”

Change is hard, especially when you haven’t yet been rewarded. Change means work.

This takes us back to steps 1 and 2. If you are aware of what you’re doing and what’s not working, you can get a better sense of what will work.

Step 1: You notice that you’re starving at work every day at 11:00, and because you’re so busy, you gorge on sweets as soon as you get a chance and feel awful after that.

Step 2: You visualize yourself wearing your favorite suit comfortably all day long once you lose weight and having consistent energy throughout the day to come up with novel ideas at work. This leads to a promotion.

Going through step 1 and two allows you to push past your excuses every time they flood your brain. You know what you want to change and how you’ll feel once you’ve made the change. Now it’s just a matter of challenging the voices that tell you not to do it.

I see myself as a consultant in one of the best companies in the world, traveling around the globe for different projects, solving issues for my clients, improving their solutions. I know that I cannot achieve it sitting in front of the TV watching next episode of Breaking Bad.

4. Be consistent.

Research shows that you have a better chance of breaking a bad habit if you’re consistent. If you tell yourself that you’ll go to the gym on Monday mornings, Tuesday evenings, and Friday afternoons, you’re more likely to lose momentum than if you go every day.

Although it may not be realistic to do something every day for the rest of your life, it helps to set it up this way while you’re breaking a habit.

Maybe you want to stop eating sugar. If you let yourself have a little treat every night, this habit can easily expand into eating a larger treat every night, and before you know it, your sugar cravings are triggered at breakfast, lunch, and dinner.

Make the change small enough that you can do it every single day. Although researchers say that the length of time necessary to change a habit differs from person to person, it averages from twenty-one to sixty-six days.

If you can make a small change every day for that long, you can begin to play around with flexibility after you feel like the bad habit has been broken.

I don’t watch as many movies as I watched in the past, and in the last couple of weeks I’ve made tremendous progress regarding my future and prospective job. From time to time I allow myself a lazy evening in front of the TV, but I don’t fault myself for that since I’ve broken the habit and now do this in moderation.

5. Have a plan.

Just like you can’t reach your destination if you don’t know what it is, you’ll have more trouble if you don’t have a map to show you how to get there.

If you can’t find a program that’s already out there to help you break your bad habit, make your own plan. Write it down.

When you leave room for guessing or experimentation, you’re less likely to succeed.

When you’re creating a plan, if you set guidelines for what happens when you cheat, want to take a break, or fall off the wagon, you won’t have to speculate about how you’ll get back on the path to your goals. A plan can help you kick start the healthy habit when you’ve gotten off track.

Going back to step 1, if you know what typically sets you off toward failure, you can work that into your plan too.

If you’re trying to quit smoking, but you know that you always want a cigarette after you eat dinner, make specific plans for what you are going to do during and after dinner instead. Maybe you’ll eat in a different location to break the association. Come up with several options for rewarding things to do after dinner to keep you distracted and occupied. Think of a treat that you can give yourself every time you follow that plan, like a candlelight soak in a sumptuous bubble bath.

The great thing about having a plan is that you know where to start again if you do veer off the path. You know you start again because you’ve started before. Every time you hit an obstacle, you may have to start over, but at least that starting point will become more and more familiar.

When you’re breaking a bad habit, remember not to see every step away from the plan as a failure. The way we learn is by making mistakes.

Imagine what happens when a musician learns a new piece of music. That musician doesn’t just pick up the sheet music and play through it flawlessly; she goes through a few measures, makes a mistake, and then goes back to the beginning.

With time, she’ll continue to play a few more measures. As she does this, she’ll solidify the earlier behavior until the entire piece of music is embedded in her cognitive and muscle memory.

The same process applies to breaking a bad habit. The bumps in the road are part of the process and will only make your eventual success sweeter.

What bad habit are you going to bust by using these steps? I told you mine. Now it’s your turn!

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The True Staycation: How to Holiday in your Home Town

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With the fluctuating currency market and uncertain climate, more holidaymakers are choosing to ‘staycation’ – taking a holiday in their home country. This can be a fantastic thing to do, after all, there are amazing places to visit and fun things to do all across the UK that are often forgotten about.

But how about taking your staycation one step further and actually taking a holiday in your home town? Take a week to get to know the surrounding area like a tourist would and you might find some amazing gems hidden close to home. It could even lead to some fun new activities for you when you return to normal life.

Here’s the best way to take a true staycation and see another side to the place you live.

Check into a hotel

staycation hotel

If you want to feel like a tourist, you should do what tourists need to do and the first step is to check into a hotel. Of course you might be able to enjoy your staycation from your own home but a hotel gives you a week of freedom from making your bed, cleaning and completing household chores – the stuff we take for granted on holiday.

Choose a small boutique hotel rather than a chain where possible, and remember to take any recommendations from staff on things to do.

Pick up a tourist guide

It’s likely that you’ll be able to pick up a tourist guide to your city – if there’s a tourist information office or something similar, they’ll probably be giving away free guides. Otherwise, buy a guide book or get articles online.

It’s almost guaranteed that you’ll find plenty of fun things to do that you had never really considered doing before. And don’t dismiss things outright; if they are popular but you have never done them, it’s worth giving them a try.

Try restaurants and bars you’ve never visited

Eating out is a must on your staycation; this is a holiday after all. You might be tempted to head out to all of your favourite restaurants, and there’s nothing wrong with doing this for a couple of nights. But save most of your meals for places that you’ve never experienced before.

It’s even worth going a little further afield to find brilliant restaurants and bars nearby. Scour sites like TripAdvisor to find some of the most popular places that you haven’t tried yet.

Visit a museum

visit a museum

When people go abroad they always search out the local museums to have a look round – but how often do you do this is on your home town? Well, when you’re on staycation, it’s the perfect time to do it.

Find a list of local museums and art galleries. You might be surprised by just how many there are that are close to you. Take the time to visit a couple during your staycation to sample the arts culture in your local community.

Watch a sports team

Another popular activity when on holiday is to go and watch a local sports team. So now is the perfect time to do the same thing in your home town.

Find out what sports teams play near you. There’s likely to be a hugely diversity of everything from lower league football, basketball, roller derby, polo and more. See which teams are currently playing and see if you can’t get along to a game. Once again, it’s a good idea to choose a sport you wouldn’t usually watch.

Enjoy a spa day

You don’t have to go to Sweden to get a Swedish massage. There are plenty of places where you can relax and enjoy a spa day. Check whether the hotel you’re checking into has a spa. If not, you can always find a local spa where you’ll find a huge variety of treatment options.

Take a class

Another great idea is to take a class in something. Whether it’s drawing, baking, photography or wine tasting, it’s fun to learn something new while you are on holiday. If you can, try to choose something that brings together local elements. This can be a brilliant way to gain a new perspective on the place that you live.

See Also: 4 Smart Ways to Travel The World For Free 


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Yoga Helps You Love Yourself

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A lot of people nowadays live in an environment that isn’t particularly friendly to the mind. The sad truth is that you basically work to survive and only a selected few can enjoy life to the fullest.

However, yoga can make the change you’ve been desperately searching for. Yoga can help you relax your mind and get rid of any unnecessary stress in your life. Whether you want to make life easier or simply enjoy it maximally, yoga can be the medium you need.

A lot of people that I know have chosen to do yoga and they managed to turn their lives completely around. It wasn’t until I noticed the changes that I decided to embrace yoga myself.

In this article, we’ll talk about how yoga can help you love yourself and what you do. Yoga can help you understand who you are and what your purpose in life is, which means that you’ll live a much easier life from the moment you start practicing it.

• Get To Know Yourself On A Deeper Level

yoga happiness

Humans are spiritual beings. This isn’t something most people understand and are willing to accept. Nonetheless, this is a fact, and without proper spiritual knowledge, we won’t be able to evolve further.

Get to know yourself on a deeper, more spiritual level by practicing yoga. Yoga can help you release negative energy and bring in positive energy. Plus, while doing yoga, you’ll get to know yourself for who you truly are!

• It Allows You To Let Go Of The Need To Be Perfect

Perfection doesn’t exist which means we shouldn’t be looking for it. But, if we are to become better people, we should constantly strive towards becoming better than before.

Once you start practicing yoga, you’ll let go of the need to be perfect and accept yourself for whom you are, but you’re still going to work towards being a better person.

• Look Inside Your Heart

Through yoga, you’ll be able to look inside yourself and find lost emotions that were once part of you. Thanks to yoga, you’ll be able to experience many things that you haven’t experienced before!

• It Helps You See That You Are Worthy

yoga self worth

Stop telling yourself that you aren’t enough in this world. No matter how little you think you’re worth to the world, we’re telling you that this isn’t true. Your existence alone means that you are worthy of anything that this world has to offer, and don’t even try to think otherwise!

See Also: 9 Ways to Tackle Low Self-Esteem with a Positive Attitude

• Gain A True Sense Of Self

A lot of people simply don’t know their purpose in this world. Yoga practitioners have managed to realize how important they are and what they represent. Through yoga, you’ll be able to gain a true sense of yourself and your inner being.

• Embrace Yoga And Begin A Love Affair With Yourself

There’s no one more important than you. You’re the most important person to yourself, no matter what people say. After all, you’re the one in charge of your destiny and future. If you have negative thoughts, your future won’t look bright. Thanks to yoga, you’ll be able to take care of your life faster than ever before!

See Also: 13 Yoga Trends To Immerse Yourself In On Your Journey To Health & Happiness


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Community Discussion: Making Money

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ProBlogger Community Discussion: Making Money

One of the most popular topics on ProBlogger (if not the most searched-for item) is making money blogging, and how to go about it.

There are so many ways of earning a living online, and we have almost just as much advice on how best to keep the dollars rolling in. Darren covers it quite extensively on his podcast, and it’s a topic we dive down deep in during every ProBlogger conference or event. If you’ve got a question, we would undoubtedly have the answer!

But because it’s so different, there’s no one real formula to success (and if there is, I’d probably say it’s “diversify“). Thats why I’d love to chat with you about what has worked for you and what hasn’t? What are the pros and cons of each choice for you? What would you love to try? What do you wish would be successful, but just isn’t?

For example, affiliate sales for me used to be difficult as it wasn’t as prevalent in Australia. Most of my income comes from freelance blogging, writing, and editing, and while affiliate income has grown, it isn’t what it could be if my audience was US-based. I also quite regularly had sponsored content on the blog over the years, but sidebar advertising wasn’t terribly successful. My next move is products (if only I can make the time!).

Where do you stand on making money? How much would you like to make? What kinds of income streams are you using or will you be experimenting with this year? Let’s chat!

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6 Reasons Why A Groom Barbershop Is The Best

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Somewhere along the way with all these discount chop shops and chain salons, we lost the importance of a traditional groom barbershop. Decades back, your barber shop used to be more than a mere haircut and shave. It was a place where men could let their guard down, discuss worldly issues and their problems, and communicate with friends. Your barber used to be part craftsman and part counselor. A barbershop was that special place where men could just be men talking openly about appearances, politics, and family.

This has not changed; they are still around.

Why Men Need a Groom Barbershop

It’s important for every man to have his own man cave, as well as a place he can be himself. What better place than an original barbershop to relax amongst his friends.

Here are some reasons why every man has to have his own groom barbershop.

Your barber is trained and knowledgeable about men’s hair cuts

well trained barber

Your barber had training in how to use clippers to cut your hair, which is his main tool. He is also knowledgeable in the different hairstyles that make men feel manly. They understand what you would like for that special occasion, and the atmosphere is normally cozy and warm.

It is the perfect place to take your dad, your son, or your friends. You will meet other men and they will also become your friends. It’s a relaxing outing and a great way to spend your day.

It’s an excellent place to bond with other men

Barbers are very interesting people with fascinating stories they may share. This helps in puting you at ease and opening up to join in on conversations about family, sports, cars, and politics.

Some of the men may relax with a newspaper and discuss all the current events. Meanwhile, there are lots of teasing, laughter and joking with everyone involved. It’s normally a mixture of men of all ages — from young, middle-aged and old, as well as your barbers who join in the fun and discussions.

Life is such a hustle and people don’t have the time anymore to have a conversation with each other about everyday happenings. This is where barbershops make a difference. Vigorous discussions may suddenly crop up and engage everybody in the room.

So, if you don’t want to miss out on this specific experience, you should change your lifestyle today and look for your own neighborhood barbershop.

The experience of a great shave

great shave

Most original barbershops still use their original single-blade razor for shaving you. You can’t say you’ve lived if you haven’t experienced this pleasurable great shave done by an experienced barber. Here’s what you can expect:

You will recline back into your barber’s chair and your barber will wrap a warm towel around your face. After this, he will massage your face with a cream to open and clean your pores. Then, more warm towels would be applied. By now you can expect to feel very relaxed.

Again, your face will be massaged with cream or cocoa butter in order to make your beard soft. Then a warm lather gets brushed onto your beard. Your barber will use his sharp razor to shave off your beard or according to your specifications.

Finishing off, another warm towel will be wrapped around your face, after which the final massage is done with a vanishing cream to soothe your face. Now didn’t that sound like a soothing and relaxing experience?

This activity and experience is great for the bonding of father and son

It’s important for you to have traditions where you and your father or son can bond together. Visiting your barber with either of the two or even with both is a tradition that every man in the family should experience.

There are fathers that visit their barber for years and introduced their sons and grandsons to the same barber and barber chair. This is the greatest traditional way for men in a family to bond together. If you don’t already do this, it’s never too late to start.

The experience of a barbershop can make you feel manlier

It’s not something that you can pinpoint. It can be the combination of certain smells or that all-man atmosphere. It can be the awareness of tradition from being in the same barber shop as your father and his father’s father. Whatever the reason, you can’t help but note the manly swagger in your step as you walk out of the barbershop.

If you still haven’t experienced it, then now is the time. Spoil yourself, your father or son, get out there, look for that familiar white and red striped barber pole and begin your own tradition.


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