5 Factors That Can Help You Achieve Success

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Success is a word that can easily grab one’s attention because it’s important to each and every one of us. No matter what background we come from, we all want to achieve success. We reach for it in our quest to achieve greatness.

Different people have different interpretations of success, but we all expect the same result: to win. If we had to settle on a particular definition, we might say that success is the realization or attainment of a desire or want.

Earl Nightingale, one of the forefathers of self-improvement, defined success as “the progressive realization of a worthy ideal.” Whatever you’re working towards — a college degree, a higher-paying job or improved social status — if you consider the destination to be worthy, then arriving there constitutes success.

There are five important factors to keep in mind when it comes to achieving success. This list is not definitive as there’s always more to add and each individual’s list may vary. Keep these in mind and you won’t go wrong.

Self Image

In his book, Psycho-Cybernetics, Dr. Maxwell Maltz said that an individual’s self-image may be the most important factor in how he or she lives life. Dr. Maltz delves into how our self-image — the image we have of ourselves and how we think others see us — affects our lives.

A reconstructive plastic surgeon, Dr. Matz realized that while plastic surgery only benefited approximately 0.5% of the population and only on a surface level, the other 99.5% had scars that go deeper. These individuals had unresolved and untreated emotional scars stemming from the past.

The way to heal those metaphorical scars is not to go under the knife, but to have those people examine their self-images. Once they are able to treat their inner scars, they will be able to achieve peace of mind.

It’s important to note that self-image goes well beyond what we think of ourselves. What we believe others think of us or the light they see us in play an important role, too.

Self-Esteem

Often confused with self-image, self-esteem is the value that we place on ourselves. Unlike self-image, self-esteem is based on worthiness and not on the actual image that we have in our minds.

The common reason why many people confuse the two is that they’re closely related. In fact, our self-esteem is often derived from our self-image. As Psychology Today states, “Perhaps no other self-help topic has spawned so much advice and so many (often conflicting) theories.”

Whatever value we believe we have or how much we think we are worth constitutes our self-esteem. Stanley J. Gross, Ed.D, a licensed psychologist in private practice, says, “Self-esteem is not set in stone. Raising it is possible, but not easy…self-esteem grows as we face our fears and learn from our experiences.”

Self-Confidence

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Self-confidence is exactly what it sounds like. It’s the confidence we have in ourselves and our abilities. It’s the belief that we have in ourselves and what we are capable of.

In 1890, philosopher William James wrote in Principles of Psychology, “Believe what is in the line of your needs, for only by such belief is the need filled…have faith that you can successfully make it, and your feet are nerved to its accomplishment.”

This was James’ way of revealing the virtue of self-confidence. This attribute hinges greatly on the two preceding elements: self-image and self-esteem. How we see ourselves and what we believe our self-worth is will have an incredible impact on how confident we are in ourselves.

Self-Discipline

Self-discipline is an attribute that almost everyone knows is important for success. Unfortunately, it isn’t the easiest to implement.

Self-discipline involves taking action to achieve your desired outcome, even in the face of adversity, temptation or any other obstacle. As Mark Tyrrell says in Uncommon Help, “Exercising self-discipline can make the difference between an averagely talented person doing something amazing with their lives and a naturally talented person realizing very little of their potential.”

Discipline is absolutely vital to your success. Ignoring discipline or trying to find a way around it will only push success further and further away.

See Also: How To Improve Your Self-Discipline

Self-Love

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Self-love may sound like something that appeals primarily to narcissists, but it actually refers to how well you treat yourself. How we treat ourselves physically, mentally, emotionally and in any other areas of our lives indicates how much love we have for ourselves.

Writing in Psychology Today, Deborah Khoshaba Psy.D. states that “Self-love is a state of appreciation for oneself that grows from actions that support our physical, psychological and spiritual growth. Self-love is dynamic; it grows by actions that mature us.” Self-love is also important in helping us grow as individuals.

Carl R. Rogers, one of the founders of the humanistic approach to psychology, wrote, “The curious paradox is that when I accept myself just as I am, then I can change.” Keeping a healthy diet and associating with successful, productive people are both good examples of self-love.

See Also: Yoga Helps You Love Yourself

The important thing to take away from these five factors for success is that each and everyone revolves around one important element: yourself. It all begins from within. None of these attributes relies solely on external factors. They are all within your control. Gain proper control and understanding of these factors so you can take action and achieve success.

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All Anybody Ever Wants Is A Chance: Give It To Them

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We can only get so far before we need someone to say yes to us. I watched a video recently of a magician who was in his thirties and had never been given a chance. He performed a magic trick that was pretty generic.

What was extraordinary about him though was that he almost seemed like he had come out of a 1900’s comedy show. He was funny and genuinely a nice person. He did his best to let his passion shine through and show everybody who he was.

He took risks, was vulnerable and gave every ounce of himself. At the end of his act, all he wanted was a chance. In his eyes, you could tell that he had longed for someone to believe in him. In that moment, the chance of a lifetime was given to him and his dream came true.

The young man was in tears and overwhelmed with emotion. Watching this play out made me emotional too. At that moment, I realized that all any of us wants is a chance. We all have a dream that we want to achieve and if we work hard enough, we deserve that chance.

Maybe it’s a chance at a career that you’ve always wanted, or a chance at falling in love, or the opportunity to pitch your business to investors, or the chance to perform your art in front of thousands of people.

The purpose of this blog post is to get you thinking about the chances you can give other people.

Here’s why you should give people a chance:

 

1. Someone gave you a chance

You wouldn’t be where you are right now if someone didn’t give you a chance. Whether you realize it or not, someone you know or don’t know allowed you to get where you are. They saw something in you and believed you could do it.

You may not have had the experience or even the right level of passion, but someone believed in you. The least you can do is give that same gift back to someone else. Don’t give it to the first person you see: give it to the person that you believe has earned it.

Give that chance to someone who you believe has a gift and hasn’t had any good luck come their way. You have so much power in your life to change lives. You can make such a dent in the world by believing in someone.

It’s in your human nature to support someone who needs a chance. We’re all humans driven by emotion. The emotion someone makes you feel is usually a good indicator that they may deserve a chance from you.

Sometimes, like the magician, someone comes into your life that is humble, sweet, grateful and brilliant at what they do. Next time this happens, don’t hesitate and give this person a chance.

 

2. It’s a gift

I wouldn’t be writing these very words if someone had given me a chance. An amazing mentor of mine saw something in me when, to be honest, I didn’t even see that same greatness in myself that they saw. This topic is so close to my heart because I know what it’s like to be given a chance.

I’ve been given some incredible chances in my life and I’ve done the best I can not to waste them. Chances are a gift that you can give. Many people think you need lots of money to give awesome gifts. This idea is wrong. The best gift you can give is a chance to someone who needs it.

Instead of judging someone in need of a chance, put yourself in their shoes. Think back to the chances you have been given which may have been disguised in some weird way as a job offer or romantic interest. If you’re not going to give the gift of a chance to someone then what other things in your life are you not doing?

Why couldn’t you give someone a chance next time the opportunity came around? If you’re not going to give a chance to someone now, then even when you hit your so-called success marker, you’re not going to give a chance then either. Giving chances allows you to receive the same gift in return.

“The world works in mysterious ways and chances that are given come back to you in weird and wonderful ways”

Since I gave chances, my life has changed. I’ve been given chances that I never thought were possible. It starts with being humble and believing that you already have enough.

From this abundant place, you can give a chance to someone who has waited their entire life to meet you and be given your gift. Don’t miss out on the rewards that come from giving chances.

 

3. They deserve it

Just like the magician, there are lots of people out there that deserve a chance. I believe that if someone deserves a chance, then you should use your power as a leader to give them one. The worst that can happen is you give them a chance and they mess it up.

Failure is going to happen in every aspect of your life or business anyway, so you’ve got nothing to lose. Some of the best stuff ups create the most beautiful results. I have always believed that someone who deserves a chance should be given one.

The hard part for me is sometimes working out whether the person desiring a chance from you should be given one.

Here’s what to look for:

– The way they ask for a chance
– Their body language
– The emotion they show you
– Whether they share something vulnerable with you
– How far they are willing to go to get that chance
– Whether they will pay the chance forward

For me, knowing someone is going to take the chance I give them and then pay it forward is the biggest criteria I have. I want the world to keep prospering and this can only happen when we all pay the chances we are given forward.

 

4. You’ll get ten times back

Every chance you give out will come back ten times. I feel like I’m living proof of this. Every chance I have given out has given me back ten times what I gave out in the first place. When you give people a chance they remember it.

Your dreams become top of mind for the person you gave a chance too. At every corner, if they see a way to repay you, they will and often they’ll do so without thinking. I gave a bunch of chances to some fellow writers and each of them has done so many nice favors for me in return.

You only get chances given to you when you begin with giving chances in the first place, without expecting anything in return.

 

5. It feels good to believe in someone

Maybe the best reason to give people a chance is that it feels good. When you give out chances to people, you become someone that is looked upon as a leader. Giving out chances and seeing people achieve their dreams is one of the best feelings you can ever experience.

All anybody ever wants is a chance and this includes you. Next time you have the opportunity to give someone a chance, think back to what I’ve said. Remember that leaders change the world and giving out chances is part of that journey.

You won’t always get it right and that’s okay. Do it anyway and have faith in the outcome. We all deserve a chance. We’ve all had our lows and you have the power to create the ultimate high in someone’s life.

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37 Powerful Malcolm X Quotes to Learn From

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Malcolm X was an African-American Muslim minister and human rights activist. Many have called him one of the greatest, most influential African Americans in history. To his admirers he was a courageous advocate for the rights of blacks, a man who indicted white America in the harshest terms for its crimes against black Americans; detractors […]


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How to Calm Your Mind Without Sitting to Meditate

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“Our way to practice is one step at a time, one breath at a time.” ~Shunryu Suzuki

Sitting meditation has always been challenging for me; practicing mindfulness, even harder.

As a self-confessed worrywart who has contended with constant ruminations, flashbacks, and nightmares for most of my life (more on this later), all prior attempts at being fully present and not thinking merely served as reminders of how little control I had over my mind. Then I took up hiking and stumbled upon a form of meditation that literally transformed my life.

Initially, just being out in nature on scenic trails cultivated calmness and cleared my head. Almost immediately, I realized that hiking provided a respite from intrusive thoughts that have plagued me since I was a tyke.

They include flashbacks of my mother’s numerous suicide attempts in our decrepit Chinatown apartment, my father’s drunken rages, and recurring images of shootings, savage beatings, and other gory crime scenes from my gangbanging days.

Ruminations include the sound of gunfire along with the replaying in my head of toxic utterances in Cantonese that translate to “Giving birth to you was my biggest mistake,” “I wish you were never born,” and my own father yelling “You bastard!”

Somehow, walking in nature enabled my mind to slow down and rest, which felt liberating.

Unfortunately, the novelty soon wore out. Merely walking and hiking wasn’t enough to prevent symptoms associated with post-traumatic stress from returning. I reverted to rehashing the past and worrying obsessively about the future.

However, I had gotten a taste of the benefits of mindfulness meditation and discovered that it can be practiced while engaging in an activity I enjoyed. These revelations motivated me to keep at it.

After reading what was available on walking meditation, which typically advise focusing on the flow of our “in” and “out” breaths, I developed my own techniques for practicing mindful walking and hiking.

My favorite is to look ahead and select a destination point or object and stay focused on it. It can be a shadow on the ground, boulder, bush, tree, manhole cover, light pole, store awning, mailbox, and so on. Once I reached it, I chose another landmark or object, usually a little further away.

Rough or uneven trails forced me to concentrate on each step for safety reasons. My brain automatically blocked out discursive thoughts; otherwise I could slip, trip, or fall. Other techniques I came up with include fully feeling the ground of each step, following the flight pattern of birds and insects, observing cloud patterns, and being conscious of sounds and scents—moment to moment.

Zen monk Thich Nhat Hanh, often called “Thay,” which means “teacher” in Vietnamese, is revered throughout the world for his teachings and writings on mindfulness and peace.

He has brought the practice into institutions, including maximum-security prisons, helping inmates attain calmness and inner peace while being confined up to twenty-four hours daily. Many of them have professed that mindfulness meditation is the most difficult endeavor they have ever engaged in.

We live in a culture where many of us want quick results with as little effort as possible. This applies to how we approach our work, health, pastimes, social interactions, and problems. This mindset is the antithesis of mindfulness.

In my opinion, it is virtually impossible to tackle mindfulness meditation without patience and discipline. Fortunately, these attributes can be enhanced by engaging in the art itself.

When I started mindful walking and hiking, my ability to stay present was measured in feet and seconds.

As a highly competitive, emotionally undisciplined, and impatient person, I could have easily succumbed to my frustrations and given up. But the short periods of calmness and inner peace I attained—supplemented by my stubbornness—provided the necessary resolve for me to stick with the program.

As I continued my mindfulness “training,” catching my mind when it wandered occurred sooner, and the ability to refocus took less effort. Using kind, positive messages such as “rest” and “focus” was more effective than phrases such as “don’t wander” and “don’t think.”

Insight and mindfulness meditation are usually practiced separately. Personally, when I am procrastinating about something or seeking a solution to a problem, ideas and answers usually emerge effortlessly during or immediately following my walks and hikes.

These epiphanies and aha moments tend to be inspired by kindness and compassion, as opposed to ego.

I was severely beaten by a rival gang member as a teen. For over forty years, I suffered nightmares, flashbacks, and ruminations of the attack. Both conventional and unconventional modalities of therapy failed to provide much relief.

One morning, I was enjoying a relaxing hike when the familiar image of my attacker suddenly appeared. For the very first time, I remained calm and found myself viewing my lifelong enemy as a kindred spirit. I saw him as someone like me, most likely abused as a child, who desperately sought empowerment by joining gangs.

This awakening, along with my spiritual practice, enabled me to cultivate compassion and forgiveness. The nightmares and flashes of the attack ceased at that point and have not returned.

Mindfulness can be practiced pretty much anywhere and at any time. I do it first thing in the morning when I wake up while still lying in bed, in the kitchen, in the shower, at my desk, and most recently while getting dental work done.

Whether I devote a few seconds by pausing and taking a deep belly breath—or hiking for several hours—benefits are reaped.

As I mentioned at the beginning of this post, practicing mindfulness has transformed my life. With a family history of mental illness and a violent upbringing, I have been diagnosed and treated for multiple mood disorders, including manic depression, post-traumatic stress, addiction, and rage.

My mindfulness practice has empowered me to rest and calm my mind, as well as intercept and suppress negative thoughts. It serves as a powerful coping mechanism for me.

For the majority of my life, I was at the mercy of gambling urges and other cravings. When I encounter them now, I pause, acknowledge what is happening, take a few deep breaths, focus on my surroundings, and allow the urges to pass.

Staying relaxed enables me to respond instead of react, which places me in a better position to reflect and gain insight into the underlying issues that triggered the desire to self-medicate.

My mood is much more stable and I have better control of my emotions. The benefits I received from mindful walking and hiking has inspired me to practice it throughout the day.

I used to loathe driving because of my road rage. I was terrified of myself, often wondering when I left the house if I would end up in jail or the morgue. My level of stress rose in proportion to the amount of traffic I encountered.

Practicing mindfulness meditation in the car keeps me mellow as well as alert. I have become a patient and compassionate driver, smiling at other motorists and limiting use of the horn for safety purposes. Another insight I gained is that my past aggressive behavior on and off the road attracted like-minded people.

The mental discipline I gained also enabled me to embrace Buddhism, which has interested, yet eluded me for many years. All of this empowers me to attain and maintain equanimity. Now, I can even sit and meditate for long periods without feeling restless or irritable.

So for those who find sitting meditation challenging, or for individuals seeking different ways to practice mindfulness, I recommend mindful walking and hiking.

Not only is it a fun way to quiet the mind while getting some exercise, but it can be life-changing—helping us let go of worries, stress, tension, and even the most painful memories from the past.

About Bill Lee

Bill Lee is a second-generation Chinese American who grew up in the Chinese underworld. He is the author of three memoirs. In his new book, Born-Again Buddhist: My Path to Living Mindfully and Compassionately with Mood Disorders, he describes in detail the positive impact that mindful walking and hiking has made in his life. Visit facebook.com/Bill.Lee.author.

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Unreasonable Boss? 8 Ways to Honor Yourself in a Toxic Workplace

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“Good bosses care about getting important things done. Exceptional bosses care about their people.” ~Jeff Haden

“I’ll need you to log your work down to the minute on this spreadsheet,” she said pointing to my computer where an elaborate timesheet was swallowing up my entire screen.

I looked up at her, confused—nope, more like utterly stunned. Was she for real? My body seemed to know before my mind that I’d just entered some sort of workplace twilight zone.

I had a sinking feeling in my gut, and it was sounding some sort of alarm deep in my chest, making my heart do somersaults. She was serious. Clearly the shock was holding my throat hostage because all I could muster was a single word…

“Okay,” I replied quietly, and off she went, oblivious to the impact her passive aggressive requests were having on me.

I had just returned to work from maternity leave, and with three children aged six and under at home, I needed some flexibility in my work schedule.

I was clocking in while it was still dark outside, long before anyone else so I could get home to my little ones with enough time for quality cuddles before tucking them in for the night.

I was trying to achieve motherhood level 100 while still trying to conquer my career. Did I mention I was also pursuing my second master’s degree? Yes, I was on a mission to prove that I could still do it all.

Of course, I knew “doing it all” was the age-old battle of every modern woman trying to be equal parts supermum and Sheryl Sandberg, but despite my husband’s very real concerns, I was doing it all.

In fact, I was working harder, longer, and smarter than most people in my department because, like most mothers returning to work, I had that unshakable guilt inside telling me that I had to prove I was bringing my very best and not taking advantage of my “mum status.”

So when my new line manager insisted on tracking my every move, decision, and waking moment I was utterly confused. I mean, there I was, delivering the project deliverables and meeting each and every deadline, and her biggest worry was that she wasn’t squeezing every possible work minute out of me?

So, I did what so many of us do to prove our value to a superior: I went above and beyond to show her I was worthy of my pay no matter what it took. But the more I gave, the more she pushed, until finally, late one night, after yet another night of venting to my poor, put-upon husband, I found myself sprawled out on my living room floor, no longer able to hold back the tears.

I was broken like a shattered glass. I realized that I had allowed her constant micromanaging to bring me to the brink, and that no matter what I did, she was never going to stop.

My health was suffering. My relationships were suffering. I was suffering. I went from optimistic, happy, and loving my job to moody, stressed, and miserable. I dreaded going into this space where I never felt good enough.

Work had begun to feel like a torture chamber. A place where the person charged with helping me succeed at my job was slowly but methodically chipping away at my confidence, and it was spilling over into my personal life.

I finally accepted the reality: I had allowed her actions to steal my joy, and it was breaking my heart with every passing day. I felt so defeated.

It became very clear to me that she didn’t seem to trust me, and seemed to like me even less. I was at a loss for what to do, but I knew that I couldn’t survive in this environment for much longer, so I had to figure something out.

I went on a mission to remove the poison that had engulfed my workplace experience and bring the light back into my life. Because the truth was that in that moment I couldn’t leave my job. For now, at least, I had to deal with her and I had to find a way to cope, no matter what.

So I went on a journey to figure out what I could do to honor myself and my happiness, because as far as I was concerned, suffering was completely optional.

I had a family that needed me to get back to the old me. And frankly, I needed that too. I needed to survive my unreasonable boss. I’m guessing if you’re reading this, you have your own unreasonable boss whose overwhelming negative energy is causing problems in your life.

I’m here to share with you the eight tools I used to get through one of the hardest times in my life so you can conquer your own “horrible boss.”

1. Find your community and ask for help.

 Dealing with an unreasonable boss sometimes takes an army, or in my case a community, to survive.

The truth is with any toxic relationship, whether it’s your boss or someone else, you go through a period of wondering, “Wait, am I just absolutely crazy that I feel this way? Is it all in my head? Am I silly for letting this mess with my emotions?”

I needed someone to give me perspective. Someone safe who would give me the space to explore, without judgment, what I was feeling–an objective observer who could reflect back to me what I was really experiencing.

What’s interesting is that even when you feel all alone, you’ll often find that you’re still surrounded by amazing people willing to help you weather the storm. I found that safety net in friends, family, and colleagues, in and outside of work, who were all willing to lend an ear.

They were quite incredible really, offering advice and helping me figure out where things may have gone wrong. They allowed me to express my anger, frustration, and even let me cry. More than anything, though, they were objective and honest with me, gently leading me toward making the right moves for dealing with my boss.

In their own unique ways, all of these people were empathetic and supportive. They were the break in the ocean keeping these waves of intensity from knocking me out cold.

If you are at a loss for whom to turn toward, though, you can always turn inward. Journal about what you’re experiencing. Journaling often allows us to work through our issues on the page. And, of course, there are always tons of wonderful mental health professionals who can help give you a safe space to talk.

2. Make relaxing rituals a part of your “job.”

 Being in a workplace with such high-pressure demands meant I was under a lot of stress. Sadly, there were days that I found myself bringing my boss’s energy home with me. The conflicts of the day ran wild through my mind, and the fear of not meeting my boss’s demands left me in constant flight or fight mode.

My anxiety was high. I knew that I needed to create rituals that would help me break away from work and make my free time mine again. Because here’s the thing: Our wind-down time is when our minds and bodies recalibrate and restore, which is especially important when you’ve spent eight hours in a toxic work environment.

In fact, I came to think of relaxing as a part of my job like meeting a deadline or completing a daily task. Because relaxation can do so much for honoring your health, including lowering blood pressure and heart rate, reducing anxiety, and improving mild depression.

For me, a long warm bath was my me-time. But relaxation can come in so many forms: reading, yoga, a brisk walk, listening to your favorite Adele tune, watching a hilarious comedy, meditation, mindfulness, T’ai Chi, Chi Kung, or even spending time laughing with loved ones.

Whatever it is, make it a big part of your self-care routine, and you’ll start to preserve your sanity in the midst of your workplace chaos.

3. Let physical activity soothe and re-energize you.

While I was dealing with my manager, there was one thing that helped me release all of the extra adrenaline I had running through my body: running. Throwing on my sneakers and hitting a long path lined with big, beautiful trees was one of my favorite things to do. Not only was it another form of relaxing me-time, it released the endorphins that I was desperately in need of at this time.

Endorphins are feel-good hormones, released through physical activity, that elevate our moods. Hacking into your happy chemicals with exercise is an incredible way to combat a stressful work environment.

Physical activity can be any number of things: dancing, trampoline jumping, cycling, baseball, skateboarding, or just simply going for a run. If you can find a community to do this with, like a team or running group, even better!

4. Focus on the big picture of abundance.

It’s true that the little things remind us how insignificant some of the tougher things in our lives are.

Have you ever stared out at the stars on a quiet night and for a brief moment remembered how truly tiny you are in this great big universe? It’s in those moments that we’re reminded that the harmful energy of one bad boss, in the grand scheme of things, is really insignificant.

We realize that it’s only a blip in our long lives on this earth, and that knowledge and perspective brought me peace.

Finding these types of moments in our lives is so crucial. It can be found in so many unexpected places and moments. For me, I found it with my loved ones—my wonderful husband, six-year-old giggly daughter, four-year-old full-of-beans son, and two-year-old love-bug baby girl. They all kept me busy and grounded and reminded me that work was such a small part of this amazing life I was leading.

There were other parts of my life that deserved my attention and energy as well, and that reminder helped me re-center over and over again.

There are so many things that can bring these awe-inspiring moments fully into focus during a difficult work phase in your life: volunteering with those less fortunate; creative outlets like painting, sewing, or cooking, camping; or any activity that brings you into nature. These are not only distractions from a difficult work environment, but also reminders that life is fun, beautiful, and worthy of your attention.

5. Feed your calm, not your stress.

Dealing with a passive-aggressive, micro-managing boss meant not only dealing with a lot of stress, but also with tons of anxiety. And with lots of anxiety, sometimes my automatic reaction was to self-soothe with Ben & Jerry’s.

Yes, I know we’ve all been there, that point of utter disappointment where all we can think to do is dive headfirst into the cookie jar.

This is where being a health professional helps. I knew using food to manage my stress and deal with my emotional issues would be a slippery slope. On top of that, foods like ice cream and cookies would only make my plummeting moods worse.

Here’s the thing: a sugary snack or baked goodie will send your blood sugar on a wild rollercoaster, which will further negatively affect your stress, anxiety, and depression. I was already dealing with one mood-enhancing rollercoaster (my boss!) I didn’t need to make things worse with my diet.

I made a plan to eat in a way that supported my stress relief by eating foods that kept my blood sugar on an even keel. I incorporated whole grain products like brown rice, protein, and berries, and avoided stimulants like caffeine, alcohol, and nicotine, which could make mood swings worse.

I also increased my omega-3 intake, which has been proven to reduce feelings of sadness, pessimism, indifference, sleeplessness, and low libido. You can find omega-3s in some pretty yummy foods like seafood, walnuts, flaxseed, and leafy green vegetables.

6. Worship at the altar of sleep, because it’s sacred.

With three kids, and a fourth in the form of a grouchy boss, I spent many sleepless nights stressed out. My mind would be constantly racing. The more I lost sleep, the worse things would be for me the next day.

I grew more and more irritable and angry, and was just plain exhausted, which meant going to work the next morning to face my boss was getting more difficult.

Lack of sleep meant my filters were down, and my ability to balance my mood was completely compromised. Basically, no sleep = falling into a spiral of self-loathing even at the smallest criticism from a difficult boss.

“Switching off” the stress to get a good night’s sleep can be difficult, but making it a priority can make the difference between a good day or a bad day at work.

A few things that help include trying to keep a regular sleep cycle (sleeping and waking at the same time every day) and avoiding stimulating activities before bed like TV, tablets, computers, or phones. The light given off by these devices suppress melatonin, which supports sleep.

You can also include a night-time routine that helps you get into a relaxed state, like an end of day warm bath, a massage from your partner, aromatherapy, or a night-time meditation that lets you release tension.

7. Take a step back and handle what’s yours.

When we’re in a difficult circumstance like I was with my boss, we can spend a lot of time in our heads trying to figure it all out. I would always wonder, “Did I do something to cause this? Could I have done something differently?”

The reality was that I could keep spinning my wheels trying to figure it out, but not everything was in my control. I learned to take a step back, reflect, and objectively look at the situation. I identified the real stressors I was facing, and then I went about the business of figuring out what was in my control and what wasn’t.

What wasn’t in my control I accepted and tried my best to let go of, but what was in my control I approached head on.

I looked at whether or not my coping strategies were effective and whether any strategies from past experiences could be modified to fit this situation. I also kept a close eye on my self-talk. It’s so incredibly easy to fall into negative self-talk, but I made it my mission to be kind to myself. I gave myself plenty of positive pep talks and pats on the back for any small victory. Make sure that you are doing the same to help combat stressful situations.

8. Make the right moves, confidently. 

Ultimately, your happiness and health should always at the top of your priority list. If you can’t deal with the situation with your difficult boss using any of the above, then it’s time to deal with the problem in the healthiest way possible.

In my case, I did everything I could to remedy the situation on my own, by explaining to my boss the impact her behavior was having on me and by going through grievance channels at work, which meant mediation with my boss through Human Resources, for example. But in the end, I knew that staying in the situation was causing too much harm.

When the opportunity came up to take voluntary redundancy, I jumped at it, and I spent some time with my family while I figured out my next steps. Building an exit strategy that puts you first is always something to applaud. Sometimes, the healthiest thing we can do for ourselves doesn’t look like the most practical, but it’ll save us years of heartache, stress, and ultimately, bad health.

These eight strategies helped me move through a toxic environment with a little more ease. What I came to find out, though, was that my boss was dealing with some of her own stress that she was bringing to the workplace. She was projecting her personal problems onto me, the mother with three children who seemed to “have it all.”

She was roping me into carrying the burden of her issues in these micro-aggressions of control she was laying on me. Because of this, the truth is, I was never going to win her over, and I’d venture to guess that whatever is pushing your boss to keep you down is something you may never be able to fix either. Just remember that you are not required to carry someone else’s baggage.

Your health matters, which is why I hope these tips help you find peace and health on your journey.

About Leah de Souza-Thomas

Leah de Souza-Thomas BSc MSc MPH is a health and wellness specialist who supports people to move back from the brink of a health crisis. She does this by implementing research backed strategies and techniques that deliver instinctive, effortless, and permanent lifestyle change and as a result improved health. Download Leah’s “5 Easy Ways to Prevent Your Next Health Crisis" here.

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What’s Your Drug of Choice?

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One of the most fascinating things that you’ll learn about Internet marketing isn’t really the variety of ways you can make some serious money online. Instead, it’s the clear demonstration that just about anyone can come from just about any situation and discover tremendous success out the other side.

You may already know, for instance, that John Chow himself grew up in one of Canada’s poorest neighborhoods and he is one of the best known and most successful Internet marketers today. In his new book Drug of Choice, Mark Van Stratum documents his journey from a life of drugs and crime to that of a jet-setting millionaire. Let’s get started with the review.

The True Story of the One-Armed Criminal

It’s obvious enough to anyone that some people are simply born into a better situation than others. If your parents are rich and successful, you will be afforded a great number of privileges denied to countless others. Conversely, if you have a rough childhood, your struggles will be more difficult.

In many ways, Drug of Choice should not be viewed as some sort of manual for how you too can make millions of dollars on the Internet. Instead, it describes Mark’s personal journey through hardship and how he was able to overcome those challenges. You could say it’s his memoir. It’s all told from a first-person perspective.

Mark talks about when he was just five years old, waking up in a hospital, unsure of how he got there. His arm had been run over by a train and had to be amputated. While it seems like he took it in stride himself (he hated staying at the hospital), the kids at school thought differently. He learned very quickly (and wrongly) that violence was the answer.

And then his father left when he was 12. Yes, Mark Van Stratum certainly started out from a rough spot.

Turning to a Life of Crime

If you’re hoping for a book full of pictures that you can finish in one sitting, this probably isn’t it. There are over 200 pages of straight text here, but the writing style makes for a light and easy read. It’s like a fictional tale, except everything in it is a true and accurate account (to the best of his memory) of Mark’s life.

He takes us along, for instance, to the time he robbed an office building with his best friend Alvin, another ne’er-do-well who never did fit in with the other kids. They were “brothers,” even though they weren’t related and weren’t even of the same race.

The narrative is approachable and compelling, while the actual chapters are kept relatively short so you always feel compelled to read just a little bit more. Why is his mother crying? How did he get into drugs and alcohol? What happened to turn all of this around?

Turning Things Around

Of course, this blog is mostly about Internet marketing and the dot com lifestyle, so it only makes sense that a sizable portion of the book is dedicated to that aspect of Mark’s life today. We learn how he connects with other successful entrepreneurs like Charles Ngo… as well as professional skydivers, apparently.

We learn about the myriad of other lessons he learned along the way, how he was able to turn his life around and start raking in the serious cash as an affiliate marketer. That became his new “drug of choice,” so to speak.

The Power of Choice

The take-home lesson that you will hopefully glean from reading this book is that it really is never too late to change. Rise above your circumstances, make better decisions, and with a little luck on your side, you could be on the receiving end of seven-figure affiliate payouts too.

Today, Mark Van Stratum says he has created “a fulfilling life” with a “worldwide circle of friends” and multiple businesses “boasting millions of dollars annually.” I think we all want something like that, right?

Drug of Choice: The Inspiring True Story of the One-Armed Criminal Who Mastered Love and Made Millions is available now on Amazon in your choice of hardcover, paperback and Kindle formats.


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20 Recipes That Prove a Ripen Banana Is Still Good to Go!

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Every time I hear someone say they they can’t do anything with a ripe banana, I cringe. There are so many things you can do with ripe bananas!

Sure, they aren’t as appetizing by themselves, but they most definitely can serve you in a variety of ways. Cookie, cakes, smoothies, and breads — there’s just no going wrong here.

Here is a compilation of recipes I’ve gathered for you from around the internet. With this much variety, you’re bound to find what makes your taste buds happy.

1. Chocolate Banana Smoothie

This is a no-brainer. Smoothies are the easiest solution when it comes to figuring out what to do with ripe fruit, frozen fruit, or fruit that’s about to spoil.

1 c. milk

1 chocolate scoop of protein

1 ripe banana

3/4 frozen fruit

1 tbsp. of peanut butter

*Don’t forget you need the best blender .

2. Banana Pancakes (So yummy!)

Mix pancakes how you would normally and add in one ripe banana

3. Chewy and Moist Oatmeal Banana Cookies

3/4 cup salted butter, softened (I use Challenge Butter)

1 cup brown sugar, packed

1/2 cup sugar

1 egg

1 tsp vanilla extract

1 cup mashed bananas

1 1/2 cups flour

1 1/2 tsp cinnamon

1 tsp baking soda

1/4 tsp ground cloves

2 tsp cornstarch

3 cups old fashioned oats

Click here for further instructions.

4. Caramelized Banana Upside-Down Cake

1/2 cup unsalted butter (1 stick)

3/4 cup light brown sugar, packed

about 3 extra-large ripe bananas or 4 small/medium, sliced in half horizontally and then sliced in vertically (if banana is ‘fat’, slice each half into 3 or 4 long vertical pieces)

1 cup all-purpose flour

3/4 cup granulated sugar

2 teaspoons baking powder

pinch salt, optional and to taste

1 large egg

1/2 cup buttermilk (or Powdered Buttermilk, use 2 tablespoons with the dry ingredients + 1/2 cup water added with the wet)

1/3 cup sour cream (lite okay, or plain Greek yogurt may be substituted)

3 tablespoons canola or vegetable oil

2 teaspoons vanilla extract

salted caramel sauce for drizzling, optional (homemade or store bought)

5. Waffled Banana Bread

1 ¼ cups all-purpose flour

¾ cup sugar

½ cup chopped walnuts

1 tsp baking powder

½ tsp baking soda

½ tsp ground cinnamon

½ tsp freshly grated nutmeg

¼ tsp fine salt

1 cup smashed banana (2 to 3 small bananas)

½ cup vegetable oil, plus more for brushing waffle iron

½ cup sour cream

1 tsp pure vanilla extract

2 large eggs

Soft unsalted butter and confectioners’ sugar, for dusting (optional)

6. Banana Cream Pudding

1 qt milk

2 cups plus 1/4 cup sugar

8 large eggs, separated, whites discarded or store for another use

1 tsp banana extract

⅓ cup bourbon

½ cup cornstarch

Salt

½ tsp pure vanilla extract, plus a splash

2 Tbsp butter, cut into cubes

1 cup heavy cream

4 bananas, sliced

1 box vanilla wafers

⅓ cup creme de banana

7. Chocolate-Banana Pancake Breakfast Casserole

4 Tbsp unsalted butter, plus more as necessary and for greasing the baking dish

1 ¾ cups all-purpose flour

6 Tbsp granulated sugar

1 ½ tsp baking powder

1 tsp baking soda

Kosher salt

1 ¾ cups buttermilk

7 large eggs

2 cups half-and-half

1 tsp pure vanilla extract

2 bananas, thinly sliced

1 cup semisweet chocolate chips

Confectioners’ sugar, for dusting

8. Grilled Banana Pound Cake with Chocolate Sauce

Nonstick cooking spray

1 cup (2 sticks) unsalted butter, room temperature

2 cups light brown sugar

1 cup granulated sugar, plus more for dusting pan

6 eggs

1 ¼ cups mashed ripe banana (about 2 bananas)

1 ½ tsp vanilla extract

½ tsp lemon extract

3 cups flour

1 cup sour cream

1 pinch kosher salt

Chocolate Sauce

1 ⅓ cups heavy cream

1 cup honey

⅔ cup dark brown sugar

½ cup Dutch-processed cocoa powder

2 cups semisweet chocolate chips

Big pinch of salt

4 Tbsp unsalted butter

Unsalted butter, melted, for serving

9. Banana Crunch Muffins

3 cups all-purpose flour

2 cups sugar

2 tsp baking powder

1 tsp baking soda

½ tsp salt

½ lb(s) unsalted butter, melted and cooled

2 extra-large eggs

¾ cup whole milk

2 tsp pure vanilla extract

1 cup ripe bananas, mashed (2 bananas)

1 cup ripe bananas, medium-diced (1 banana)

1 cup walnuts, small-diced

1 cup granola

1 cup sweetened, shredded coconut

Dried banana chips, granola, or shredded coconut (optional)

10. Banana Bread

1/2 cup (1 stick) unsalted butter

1 cup granulated white sugar

2 large eggs

3 medium bananas, very ripe

1/4 cup milk

1 teaspoons vanilla

2 cups all-purpose flour

1 teaspoon baking soda

1/2 teaspoon kosher salt

1/2 cup chopped nuts or chocolate chips (optional)

11. Banana-Date Smoothie

Serves 2

2 medium bananas, ripe

1/4 cup pitted dates, such as Medjool

2 cups almond milk

2 teaspoons chia seeds, soaked if time allows (see Recipe Note)

1/2 teaspoon ground cardamom

1/2 lime, juiced

4 ice cubes

Dash of cinnamon

Dash of sea salt

12. Ice cream

Freeze banana slices until you have a decent amount, then blend them to create the best vegan ice cream ever! Those frozen slices can also be stirred into a regular ice cream base, too.

13. Death by Chocolate Banana Bread

Cooking spray, for pan

1/2 c. cocoa powder, plus more for dusting pan

1 c. all-purpose flour

1 tsp. baking soda

1/4 tsp. kosher salt

3/4 c. sugar

1/2 c. melted butter

1 large egg plus 1 large egg yolk

1/4 c. buttermilk or sour cream

1 tsp. pure vanilla extract

3 super-ripe bananas, mashed

1 c. semisweet chocolate chips

14. Tropical Green Smoothie

Makes 2 large smoothies

1 large banana, as ripe as possible, frozen

1/2 cup frozen mango chunks

1 big handful mixed greens (spinach, kale, baby swiss chard, etc)

1/2 cup pineapple, fresh or frozen is fine, just be sure it’s nice and sweet if using fresh

1 1/2 cups cold coconut milk

1 lime, juice and zest

15. Banana Ketchup

2 tablespoon peanut or vegetable oil

1/2 cup finely chopped sweet onion (about 1 small onion)

2 teaspoons minced garlic (about 2 medium cloves)

1 tablespoon finely chopped seeded jalapeño from (about 1 small jalapeño)

2 teaspoons freshly grated ginger

1/2 teaspoon ground turmeric

1/4 teaspoon ground allspice

1 1/4 cups mashed ripe bananas (about 4 large bananas)

1/2 cup white vinegar

2 tablespoons honey

2 tablespoons rum

1 tablespoon tomato paste

1 tablespoon soy sauce

1/2 teaspoon salt, plus more to taste

Water, as needed

16. Banana Chips

10 ripe , but firm bananas, thinly sliced

freshly squeezed lemon juice (1 lemon is plenty)

17. Peanut Butter Banana Cups

3/4 cup dark chocolate chips (can also be dark chocolate cut into small pieces from a bar)

1 medium banana, peeled and sliced into 16 rounds

1/4 cup all-natural peanut butter, store bought or homemade

1 tablespoon melted coconut oil, (unrefined extra-virgin preferred)

16 (1.25-inch) baking cups

18. Banana Chocolate Muffins (with 3 ingredients)

Chocolate cake mix.

3-4 bananas, mashed

Optional – 2 eggs

19. Sweet Potato Banana Bites

1/2 c cooked, mashed sweet potato (approx 1 medium)

1/2 cup mashed banana (approx 1 medium)

1/4 c nut butter

2 eggs

cinnamon, to taste

Optional mix-ins: dark chocolate chips, fruit, chia seeds, etc.

20. Baked Banana Nut Donuts

Doughnuts

2 medium (235 grams) ripe bananas, mashed

1 large (50 grams) egg

1/3 cup (80 grams) unsweetened applesauce

1/2 teaspoon vanilla extract

1/3 cup (40 grams) whole-wheat flour

1/2 cup (60 grams) all-purpose flour

3/4 teaspoon baking powder

3/4 teaspoon ground cinnamon

1/4 teaspoon ground nutmeg

1/4 teaspoon salt

Cream Cheese Glaze

3 tablespoons low-fat cream cheese, softened

2 tablespoons powdered sugar

1 tablespoon nonfat milk

2 tablespoons finely chopped walnuts, toasted if desired

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How to Spot a Verbal Abuser Early and Protect Yourself

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Admitting to yourself that you’re in an abusive relationship is incredibly difficult. When your partner doesn’t ever hurt you, when your problems are “limited” to “mean words”, it feels hard to believe that it’s justified to call it abuse, especially if they are a good partner in other ways.

But that doesn’t mean that the relationship isn’t abusive, and that doesn’t mean it’s something you have to settle for. Verbal abuse is incredibly harmful for your mental health, and can leave you feeling broken, trapped, deeply depressed and worthless over time.

If you’re seeing signs of verbal abuse present in your relationship with your partner, don’t try to ignore it or convince yourself it’s not serious. It is, and you deserve to confront the problem, and should do whatever it takes to protect yourself. Here are tips on how to spot a verbal abuser.

You hide what he/she says to you from others

You’re probably used to venting to your girlfriend when your partner bugs you or leaves you disappointed, but what happens when he says something you know will outrage your friends? If you find yourself keeping something he said [1]to yourself because you’re uncomfortable sharing it with your friends, dig deep to evaluate why you’re doing that.

Is it because you’re worried about what your friends will say about him? Is it because you don’t want people to know he says those kinds of things? Is it because you’re worried about how he will react if he knows you’ve told people?

All of these are signs that something is wrong. If you know your friends are going to be horrified by a sentence, consider that you too have reason to be horrified by it. If you’re worried about people knowing this trait about him, consider that his behavior reflects who he is. If you’re worried about how he will react, ask yourself what he’s hiding and why.

Abusers are very anxious to ensure their reputation is well-maintained, and are very concerned about public image – regardless of whether or not it reflects your private life. All of these are signs that something is wrong, and that you may be sacrificing yourself for someone who is hurting you.

He/she makes you cry and doesn’t apologize

When you get into arguments, does he start saying nasty things intended to hurt your feelings? Does he target sensitive topics on purpose? Does he say cruel things seemingly out-of-the-blue, and does he leave you in tears frequently? When you cry, does he show remorse or does he tell you to stop overreacting, stop faking, “get over yourself” or otherwise dismiss your tears? This shows a selfish insensitivity that you should never see in a partner, and is a huge warning sign.

If he is incapable of or uninterested in empathizing with you when you’re in pain, particularly pain he caused, then he doesn’t show himself to be someone who cares about your feelings, making him a fundamentally unacceptable partner. Incidents like these are not normal, and are not the way loving partners behave.

He/she eventually apologizes profusely and showers you with gifts

After a fight, argument or abusive episode has taken place, does he eventually come back with a profuse apology and gifts to make it up to you? This may feel like a kind and reassuring gesture on the part of your partner that reassures you he understands what he did wrong, cares about his impact and wants to improve. But the reality is it’s a standard step in the classic abuse cycle : a period of calm, a period of building tehension, a period of acting out and then the honeymoon phase, where he: apologizes or shows regret, promises it won’t happen again, tries to put some blame on you for the incident and tries to minimize or deny the abuse occurred.

All of this does not need to happen at once – for example, it’s very common for an abuser to immediately admit they were being abusive, but then later on – perhaps days or weeks later – try to reframe the incident as less serious or not their fault. You get this a lot with people you meet on dating apps , who genuinely admit they were in the wrong but don’t try to take it back. Now, after he’s apologized to you and reassured you he understands what he did wrong… does he do it again?

You’re hoping he/she will change over time

One of the most difficult things about abuse is that it is cyclical. Once your partner seems like they’ve really changed, you reassure yourself that things will get better – and then another incident occurs. Then they apologize profusely, reassure you they know they messed up, and you think you’re dedicated to your relationship and they seem remorseful so you’ll keep working at it. Then he does it again, and you tell him he has to shape up or you’ll leave, and he says he will. Things get better, you think he’s a better partner now that he’s realized he was in the wrong – and then he does it again.

The truth is, abusers rarely change or improve, and your love and dedi cation won’t improve him. Rather than staying stuck in the cycle, take a look at your life and realize that one failed relationship won’t ruin it – get out. Preserve your mental health. Don’t settle for a verbal abuser.

Reference

[1] Healthy Place: The Signs of Verbal Abuse
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Here’s How You Can Turn Tragedy Into Triumph

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Every success story is riddled with trials, triumph, and tragedy. The ability to overcome these barriers is what makes them so appealing. From the small startup disrupting the industry giants to a small platoon battling a massive army. In these moments our character is tested, and our resolve built.

When it seems like there’s nowhere to go is when the fiercest battles take place in our mind, body, and spirit. The ones who triumph are forever remembered in history, and the rest are forgotten.

So what’s the difference between these titans and the average person?

It’s not social standing, stature, or even wealth. The determining factor that separates the haves from the have-nots is their grit and determination. In one word, perseverance. Grit is the quality that keeps us moving forward in a sea of turmoil, facing a tidal wave of doubt, we batten down the hatches and weather the storm.

Sticking to the plan when most have already walked away. Working alone, silently, without pay, and without recognition. It’s this quality that makes us bend but not break. We wag our fingers in defiance of the odds, shattering the alleged barriers of reality.

Forever pushing the limits of what’s possible, creating new horizons and blazing our name on new frontiers. It’s this quality that makes the finest men and women of history seem like gods amongst mortals.

Either placed in these situations by choice or by circumstance, this is when we shine the brightest. The ability to hold ourselves to a different standard and not settling for mediocrity. Forever striving for success in an unrelenting fashion, knowing that failure is not a permanent condition, but a temporary inconvenience.

It’s this self-accountability and awareness to recognize that nothing worth having comes easy. Risking it all while showing up and performing every single day without any loss of enthusiasm.

“Fortune favors the brave.” – Publius Terence

Rise to the occasion

The crew of the Essex knows this quality all too well. When placed between a rock and a hard place they chose to rise to the occasion. This incredible tale is the inspiration for Herman Melville’s Moby Dick and a true story of perseverance and the fighting spirit.

The Essex was a whaling ship from Nantucket, Massachusetts piloted by Captain Pollard and his 20 men in the 1800’s. During their whaling expedition, the ship was rammed by a sperm whale sinking it.

This left Captain Pollard and the crew fending for their lives on three small rescue boats hundreds of miles away from civilization with no land in sight. With little provisions, much of the Essex crew did what they could to fight off starvation and dehydration. Sadly, much of the crew perished due to these abysmal conditions, but the survivors did not lose hope.

With such a dire situation most would succumb to the circumstances, but Captain Pollard kept his resolve and encouraged his men. After weeks at sea, the remaining survivors eventually resorted to cannibalism doing anything necessary to fight off death.

Surviving long enough for a passing ship to rescue them the survivors were found delirious, starved, and a shadow of their former selves. Eventually, the surviving crew returned to Nantucket, Massachusetts to their family where they tried to forget the horrors of the ocean.

Fighting seemingly insurmountable odds in a literal sea of despair is why the Essex survivors will forever be remembered. Their courage and ability to endure the agony of hopelessness is a quality we should all strive to obtain.

“Being challenged in life is inevitable, being defeated is optional.” – Roger Crawford

Learn to fight adversity

Luckily for us, we are not in life and death circumstances, but many times we are too easily discouraged at the first sign of resistance. Unable to say no, stand up, and do what is necessary in the face of adversity. We must learn to channel our inner survivor and fight off these obstacles with the tenacity of a prize fighter.

To do otherwise would be selling ourselves short and conforming to the reality that society has placed on us. Rather than living on our knees let’s die on our feet knowing that at the end of the day we gave life everything we had. Leaving no stone unturned forever pushing past our comfort zones.

We must realize that life is a bold adventure and to take advantage we have to keep throwing things against the wall knowing that eventually, something will stick. Everyone thinks that there’s such a thing as overnight success, but its years in the making. Let’s make the commitment to strengthen our resolve because if we never quit, we cannot fail.

How have you been able to turn tragedy into triumph? Leave your experiences below!

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7 Secret Ways to Stay Happy Even When Life Knocks You Down

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When I was a kid I never contemplated the profound subject called happiness, yet I was fully content. My pockets were empty, but Super Mario was collecting coins and that was enough for me to be happy. As the years passed, the game of Mario was replaced by the games of life. I realized in […]

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