Music Has Helped Me Wake Up 50% Faster and These Are Playlists I Used

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In today’s ever busy and stressful world, it can be quite hard to wake up rejuvenated and ready for the break of day. I am sure you have heard it many times before that in order to have a productive day; you need to wake up productive. Sure everyone knows starting off energetic can help us get through the rest of the day easy, but sometimes it’s hard for us to even just leave our bed and get to work

With Morning Spotify playlist, you can take start your day on the right foot, and power through without much fuss.

Why Building A Morning Playlist is Good For You?

Enjoy the Allure of Music in the Morning

For one, music can boost your motivation. You might wake up feeling low; perhaps you have been having a bit of trouble at work. With music, however, you can enjoy elevated morale. How so? By listening to your favorite song or beat fights off de-motivating brainwaves linked to boredom and fatigue.

Physical, Mental, and Emotional Rejuvenation

Besides being rejuvenating, music can be a great motivator for your morning gym or yoga sessions. Through music, you can pull through your workout and yoga postures. This way, you can boost your inner energy, stay alert, and keep stress at bay.

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Goal Setting Mistakes You Have To Be Careful About

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Setting goals is a great practice because it helps you stay on point but some people approach this strategy the wrong way. I’ve always encouraged my clients to set goals when starting a business or even when doing work every day because when done correctly, it will help you stay focused on the bottom line. Over the years, I’ve played around with many techniques to improve my productivity and have found some to work better than others. The key is to try different strategies and test out which ones work optimal for you because your schedule will be different compared to others. However, once you’ve tested out and found a winning combination, it’s important to stay away from making common goal setting mistakes.

Here are “3” common goal setting mistakes made by people and entrepreneurs.

Wrong Priorities

Many of you are probably having a hard time understanding what I mean and the concept is very simple. It’s important NOT to focus on work that is not adding to your bottom line. You’re going to have a lot of work and many people like to focus on work that takes the longest, however, this work might not be producing the MOST results. You have to sit down every day and go through the list, adding a number to each assignment so you know what’s the MOST important on your list. However, here’s the secret…

The number should NOT represent what takes the longest time or is MOST important because you have to focus on which task makes the most difference when completed. By using this strategy, you’ll effectively organize tasks into what gets the MOST done for you and those that produce the most results.

Don’t Fantasize

Many times, your mind can play a lot of tricks on you, which, for some, might be sheer entertainment. However, in business, this can be a very bad thing because you’ll end up fantasizing unrealistic goals for you business and this is NOT a good thing. You have to have a clear vision about your business and know what to expect at all times so keep things realistic so you can focus on the right elements of your business. If you let your mind run wild, then you’ll fantasize too much about the future, when, in reality, you still have years of hard work and hours to put in.

Here’s what you should do going forward…

First, focus on now and what you have to immediately to get to the position you want to be. However, don’t look past the week or month to help you set small goals along the way. Going through a handful of small goals will keep your expectations realistic and over several months, you’ll reach a limit you would never have imagined before.

NOT Starting Tasks

I roughly write around 10,000+ words per week and sometimes I write late into the night. I have to admit that sometimes I’m just too tired but I’ve learned a value lesson through the years that starting to write is motivation. I’ve noticed I dread starting a task, but once I’ve started it, I’m in full swing so I encourage everyone to start moving. If you have the same mentality and work late into the night, then you might want to consider changing your approach. For example,

Push yourself to sit down and start doing work because once you start writing, you’ll be in full swing and motivated to finish. One of the biggest mistakes made by clients and myself is NOT getting to work when I have tasks to finish. Remember, all it takes is a 5 minute commitment, which will transform into a 2 hour commitment and get you on the right track of achieving your goals.

Keep these factors in mind the next time you are optimizing your goal setting strategy. It’ll help you stay focused and avoid some of the big mistakes going forward. These will also help you get more done, which is awesome for anyone who has a huge lists of tasks to complete on a daily basis.

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Why Anger Isn’t “Bad” and How I Learned to Hear Its Hidden Message

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“Bitterness is like cancer. It eats upon the host. But anger is like fire. It burns it all clean.” ~Maya Angelou

I’ve always had a complex relationship with anger.

When I was young, I used to think I was somehow above anger. I would brag to people that I never got mad. Sure, I’d admit, I hated some people, but at least I wasn’t angry.

When I began therapy in my mid-twenties to deal with persistent depression and panic attacks, I started to see the feebleness of that particular story. I did get angry, it turned out, quite frequently, and I found that things went much better when I allowed myself to feel it.

I began to learn that my anger often contained useful information about me and what I wanted.

It alerted me to the fact that one of my boundaries had been crossed, or that there was something I wanted to speak up about. It let me know when I felt hurt. I saw how my closest relationships could allow for anger without falling apart, and I began to accept it as a normal part of the human condition, perhaps even a helpful one.

Still, as I perused self-help books and blogs and learned from spiritual teachers, I read about the dangers of anger over and over again.

It’s the enemy of nonviolence, Gandhi said. The Dalai Lama once asserted that it’s the main destroyer of a peaceful mind. Even the Buddha is quoted as saying that holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

So I asked myself: Was it better to try to quell anger, or embrace it?

A Life-Changing Distinction

I muddled through as best I could, hedging my bets and working to accept anger without amplifying its flames, until I began going to a local meditation class where the emphasis was on moving energy.

The meditation is based on a blend of Buddhist and Taoist practices. In addition to developing mindfulness, we’re encouraged to notice the energy within us—whether emotional or spiritual—and let it move through us. We do this by noticing the physical sensations of the energy and then following their lead, either by making noise, moving our bodies, or simply observing with nonjudgmental awareness and presence.

One day a fellow participant asked the teacher how to handle the large amount of angry energy she was feeling.

“Move the energy of the anger,” my teacher said. “It’s not good or bad; it’s just what wants to happen. When you make space for the energy and allow it to move through you, it transforms you. Just don’t get caught up in its story.”

I’d never heard anybody separate the story of anger from its energy before, but the distinction helped me a lot.

I realized that when I feel the first flush of anger, I often come up with a story: Things shouldn’t be this way. He shouldn’t have done that. It’s her fault I’m feeling bad.

Stories are about assigning blame, making people right or wrong, and moving into better than/worse than. They’re not so helpful. I realized that it’s anger’s story, not its energy, that “burns” us.

Anger’s energy is neutral. It doesn’t seek to blame or make anybody right or wrong. When I feel anger in my body, I feel a burning sensation, a warmth, and a flow of intense energy. That’s it. It actually reconnects me to the strength in my core and reminds me that I’m powerful, capable, and alive.

Hearing a Hidden Message

It was while moving the energy of anger that I first heard its hidden message.

Someone—a Very Important Person in my life—accused me of treating him poorly and having less-than-stellar intentions. I don’t remember his exact words, but I do recall that they implied I had been deliberately inconsiderate, selfish, and hurtful.

I was outraged and began to tell a story. Why couldn’t he see my good intentions? It wasn’t fair; I was doing my best. He was being unreasonable, hurtful, and cruel.

Fortunately, I knew enough to leave the conversation as soon as I realized I was triggered and go somewhere where I could move the energy. As I was feeling the burning heat of the anger, I realized that I was making the same movement over and over with my arms; pushing them out and away from my chest, I looked like I was trying to shove something away from myself.

Suddenly it occurred to me: What I was trying to push away were the judgments, accusations, and negative opinions of my Very Important Person. It was almost like I was trying to set a physical boundary so that they wouldn’t penetrate my own being or take root in how I viewed myself.

That’s when I realized that the energy of anger was trying to prevent me from internalizing my loved one’s criticism.

An Inexhaustible Well of Strength

As I kept pushing the negative opinions away from myself mentally and physically, I began to feel a sense of strength. I realized that I had a choice: I don’t have to take on anybody else’s judgments. I can choose to hold my own truth, one that sees the goodness in myself and everyone else, and I can act based on what feels right to me.

Along with the sense of strength came a sense of immensity. It was like all the criticism and accusations had felt so huge and crushing just moments earlier because I had forgotten how big I was. Once I stood up to my full height, they seemed more like mosquitoes biting at my ankles.

Feeling my own power and size again, I realized that I was free to say what I needed to say, no matter how difficult, without fear of how he responded. His thoughts and feelings couldn’t hurt me, after all. For someone like me with codependent tendencies who often cares too much about the opinions and expectations of others, this was pretty revolutionary.

And then the most amazing thing happened. The anger burned itself right out.

I believe this is because when I’m connected with my own power, I can advocate for and take care of myself. When I see clearly who I really am, nothing can threaten my sense of myself as a good person. Others have no real power over me.

As a result, there’s no need for the anger, no need to either defend or attack, and no need to make my loved one wrong. After all, he’s really only trying to take care of himself in the best way he knows how, and no matter what he does, I have options in terms of how I choose to respond.

All of this allowed me to go back to my Very Important Person, apologize for where I had been unskillful, express compassion for his suffering without taking responsibility for it, and let him know how the way he had communicated affected me. I was able to make a request about how he communicates with me when he’s upset.

Afterward, we both understood each other better, and though it didn’t resolve the issue then and there, it did lay a foundation for finding resolution in the future.

The Great Gift of Anger

Anger is a perfect example of something that’s both/and, not either/or. It can be incredibly destructive if we pay too much attention to its story, and it’s also a healing and transformative force.

It arises from a misunderstanding—that what I want and need is at the mercy of others—and it also contains within it the key to breaking free from that misconception.

Anger arises when I forget that I already have everything I need within me (and by now I’m aware enough to recognize that this happens on a daily basis). I now see it as a fiercely loving force. It wants me to reconnect to my strength and size. It wants me to transform. It wants me to take back the power that is mine to treat myself with love and respect.

It does its job by persisting until I am reminded of who I really am. I do mine by letting go of my small story long enough to hear its higher message.

About Meredith Walters

Meredith Walters loves to help people who are still unsure what they’re meant to do in the world find their calling, forge their own path, and discover the hero within. Click here to get a free guide with 50 practical ideas, resources, and exercises to help you find your calling without losing your mind (or your shirt).

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The Problem with “Anyone Can Do It”

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Can anyone make a comfortable living working for themselves on the Internet? Absolutely. If you are reading these words, at bare minimum, I know at least two things about you for certain. First, you own (or at least have access to) some sort of device that can get online. Second, you have (or at least have access to) a connection to the Internet. Armed with only these two requirements, it is fully within your grasp to start earning real income online.

At Your Fingertips

And if you are reading these words, more likely than not, you have a computer or at least a computer-like device (like a tablet with a keyboard accessory) that allows you to do all sorts of wonderful other things, like take pictures and run applications. And you probably have Internet access at home or in a reasonably convenient location too. Even if this means using the public terminals at the public library, using the free Internet access there for half an hour at a time, you can make money online.

Almost anything can be run through a browser-based app these days. You can store your files in the cloud, access your email through a web browser, install your website on a remote server, edit photos and videos, upload content to YouTube and WordPress, manage your affiliate account, and do just about anything else. It’s all just a couple mouse clicks away.

It is absolutely true. It doesn’t matter if you’re young or old, black or white, male or female, American or Armenian. The opportunity is there. Anyone can do it.

But Most People Don’t. Why?

Most people don’t want to put in the time and effort to learn new software or new technology. Anyone can learn how to purchase a domain, sign up for a hosting plan, and install WordPress on a server, but not too many people choose to learn. Anyone can take the time to familiarize themselves with different affiliate programs and how best to promote the various offers and products, but not too many people can be bothered to learn.

Anyone can reap the benefits of literally limitless earning potential on the Internet, but they don’t want to risk the uncertainty that this non-conventional approach to work will require. When you have a regular job, you’re trading hours for dollars. You get paid a set amount of money for every hour you put in. When you work for yourself on the Internet, there is never this simple 1:1 relationship.

You could spend dozens of hours learning how to configure a WordPress blog and not make a single dime for doing so. It’s an investment. It could pay off in spades or it could quite literally be a waste of time. You won’t really know until you do it yourself.

And even when your blog is up and running, even when you configure and optimize a number of monetization methods, even when you deploy a series of promotional and marketing techniques, can you equate one specific hour of work with that particular offer conversion? No. It’s not a 1:1 relationship.

It’s Up to You

The question is not whether anyone can do it. The real question is whether or not you will do it. Almost anyone can pursue almost any career given the right opportunity, but making money online truly does level the playing field.

If you want to make it as an entertainer, you may be at the mercy of talent agents and they might be after a certain look. If you want to make it as a brilliant astrophysicist, you may need a certain predisposition toward math and scientific inquiry. If you want to be a professional athlete, you may need to be endowed with certain physical attributes. If you want to start the next Apple, Facebook or Microsoft, you may need to be born into a wealthy and well-connected family that can afford you access to opportunities unavailable to the general public.

But to make money online, all you need is an Internet-capable device and the ability to get online in a reasonably reliable and consistent manner. And you need to put in the time, effort and energy to dedicate yourself to this opportunity. It truly is up to you to decide if you “can” make money on the Internet.

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7 Radical Productivity Hacks You Should Implement Into Your Daily Routine

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When your productivity goes up, you get more stuff done, and when you get more stuff done, you feel a lot more accomplished. Even better, you get closer to your goals, you enjoy more success, and you feel a lot happier. Additionally, the huge, stress-inducing to-do list gets a whole lot shorter! If it were that simple, though, you wouldn’t be reading this.

The truth is that productivity evades a lot of us for different reasons. There are people who are insanely productive, and then there are people who claim small victories when they manage to get out of bed before noon.

What separates us? Most of the time, the pain of making a start outweighs the pleasure of getting stuff done. When this happens, you need to adjust your mindset — which I will show you how to do.

These are 7 productivity hacks anyone can add to their daily routine which will turbocharge your week:

1. Shrink that to-do list

First things first, you’ve got to shrink that to-do list. A huge to-do list makes us feel stressed and pressured. Sometimes, we don’t start because of the amount of stuff we have to do. Write down a list of all your tasks and separate them into three categories: High value, semi-value and no value.

Find a way to ditch or delegate the least valuable stuff, and then go through the tasks that would offer your life some value (but not loads) if you completed them. Are there any of these you can ditch? If so, ditch ‘em — or delegate them.

Cutting down your to-do list so that you’re only focusing on tasks that add value to your life, work, and your close ones, is a sure fire way of firing up your productivity levels. However, make sure to evaluate the least important tasks correctly before ditching them — sometimes there are things that you just have to do because no one else will.

2. Start saying no to people

Interestingly, even the most productive people on the planet struggle with saying no sometimes. Serial entrepreneur and author Tim Ferriss recently spoke to Gary Vaynerchuk about this, and the core of what he says is true: Saying no to people matters a lot. When you stop feeling an obligation to help people and realize that saying no doesn’t make you a bad person, you suddenly have so much more time on your hands.

Saying no to people isn’t being mean. It’s simply a case of asserting yourself and letting people know what you will and won’t do. It’s about defining your boundaries and standing up for your right to be happy. Some people will think you’re being mean, but you’ve just got to deal with this.

Put yourself first when possible. Don’t feel a need to take on other people’s burdens or project their frustration and neediness onto you. You’ve already got too much of your own stuff to deal with.

Of course, there are times when you should say yes. But if there is something you really don’t want to do, have no time to do, and have no obligation to do, then don’t do it. And, no, you’re not allowed to give a “maybe” response. Just say “Sorry, can’t do it” and move on.

“Say no to everything, so you can say yes to the one thing.” – Richie Norton

3. Eat that frog already

This is a great tip I first heard from Brian Tracy, but it’s based on a famous Mark Twain quote: “If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And if it’s your job to eat two frogs, eat the biggest one first.”

Eating frogs sounds icky and disgusting. Why would anyone want to do that?! What Twain and Tracy mean is that we all have tasks we don’t look forward to. We associate more pain with doing the task than not doing it, and so we keep putting it off.

The problem is that the horrible task won’t just go away. We have to eat the frog at some point, and knowing this causes us more stress and worry. As such, it’s much better to eat the frog in the morning because it’s rewarding to get on with your day knowing that the most difficult task has already been completed.

In other words, do the hardest task first in the AM. All of a sudden, you’ll have a song in your heart because the rest of the day doesn’t look so bad.

4. Keep your “Why” in mind at all times

Discovering what motivates us helps to keep us on track with our goals. What’s the real reason you don’t stay productive? Perhaps you were super productive last Tuesday, but decided to be lazy on Wednesday and Thursday.

A lot of us are like this. We experience a major high where we get lots of stuff done and make a Facebook post about being productive, before lying in bed all of the next day.

It’s usually because we don’t have a strong enough why. Higher purposes and goals are so important for sustained productivity, otherwise, we’ll just ask ourselves, “What’s the point? Why are we working so hard when we could just be chilling?” Define your “Why” for yourself once and for all. If you know why you want to do stuff and keep reminding yourself of it, you’ll be much more motivated to stay on track.

5. Take a 20 minute nap each day

The late afternoon tiredness is real. However, rather than call it quits at 6 PM because your focus is dwindling, take a nap so that you can go for longer. Anyone who isn’t a napper might raise an eyebrow at this, but that’s okay. However, from now on you should consider joining the 20 Minute Nap Club (it’s free).

Studies have shown that a brief cat nap boosts short-term alertness. If you put your head down for 20 minutes during the afternoon, you get to restore your energy levels so that you can get more stuff down without losing focus. If you are still not convinced then start with a 20-minute relaxing meditation. This works, I swear.

6. Wake up early

You’ll need a nap if you wake up early. As well as having the time to get more stuff done, waking up early also gives you a psychological boost. While everyone else is still in bed snoozing, you’re up and being productive. From experience, that feels great, and it gives you an edge. Night owls, fret not: even 15 minutes earlier tomorrow will do the trick.

“Morning is an important time of day, because how you spend your morning can often tell you what kind of day you are going to have.” – Lemony Snicket

7. Work weekends

Technically, this is one for the weekends, but it still counts. Few people, especially those who work 9-5, want to be told that they should be working weekends. But the thing is that, if you see the weekend as precious time where you refuse to do any sort of work whatsoever because sports/cocktails/friends/family/tequila comes first, your tasks really will start to pile up.

Chill time on the weekend is important, and it’s super important that you connect with friends and family, but don’t be a massive stickler on this. If you’ve got a two-hour window on Sunday where all you’ll be doing is lying on the sofa or catching up on a box set, use this time to get some stuff done. You’ll feel productive, and it will save you a major headache during the week.

These are seven radical productivity hacks you should implement into your daily routine. Some of them will seem hard at first, but no one said being productive was easy and that’s the reason many of us fail at it! However, the more often you incorporate these into your daily routine, the easier things will become.

Have any radical tips of your own? Share them in the comment section above!


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How to Keep Your Marriage or Relationship Strong and Beat the Statistics

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“Good relationships don’t just happen. They take time, patience, and two people who truly want to be together.” ~Unknown

You can`t take it anymore. Life’s getting boring, you fight over everything, your relationship has lost its spark, and you can’t look each other in the eye without feeling regret. Many marriages and relationships get to this place eventually.

According to recent surveys, one of every two American couples gets a divorce. This means you only have a 50 percent chance at making your relationship work, no matter how well it began. The only way you can turn things around is by making some changes in how you interact.

According to experts, these are the top eight tips that, if followed, will give your relationship a fresh breath of air. I’m not married, but I’ve applied these tips in my romantic relationship, and it’s gotten a lot stronger as a result.

1. Understand that there are usually underlying issues behind every fight.

Most of my past arguments with my girlfriend weren’t about money, but they usually happened when I was struggling financially because I was feeling bad about myself.

In the past, any time my girlfriend and I talked about finances, I would use aggression and humor to protect my ego and deflect the conversation elsewhere because I felt inferior.

It wass’t about her, but I made her think it was. So yes, at many times, it’s not about you. It’s your partner being angry—even at themselves—that is causing problems.

What to do then? Ask them questions to help them get to the root of what’s really bothering them. If they have the self-awareness to identify what’s going on and they choose to share that with you, let them know you understand their feelings and agree to talk through this issue when they’re ready.

It can be hard to be understanding and to not take things personally when someone gets upset or accusatory, but this is the most helpful thing you can do. And they will likely remember this later when the same thing happens to you.

2. Avoid the “The Four Horsemen.”

According to John Gottman, marriage coach and bestselling author of The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, there are four signs to whether a couple will separate or stay together. Gottman calls them The Four Horsemen: criticism, contempt, defensiveness, and stonewalling. Avoid these horsemen and your relationship will be a lot more connected and peaceful.

  • Criticism: Attacking the other person, not their behavior.
  • Contempt: Too much sarcasm and cynicism with a sense of superiority over your partner. It’s a disguised form of disrespect and disgust.
  • Defensiveness: Not accepting responsibility and blaming it all on the other person. According to Gottman, defensiveness escalates conflicts, which is why it’s so deadly.
  • Stonewalling: This means disengaging and avoiding conflicts by all means. Leaving the room or not responding to your partner not only withdraws you from the discussion but from the relationship as well.

3. Cope most of the time, change some of the time.

One thing that bothers my girlfriend is that I don’t talk when I have a problem—I mean zero talk, desert-like silence. It sometimes annoys me that my girlfriend is usually late to work and always leaves a mess behind her. But we no longer fight about both of these things. We know it’s energy consuming and that no one changes because of nagging, so we’ve learned to cope.

Now, she gives me my space when I’m not ready to open up about my issues, and I don’t mind spending an extra ten minutes each morning cleaning after her.

After forty years of coaching thousands of couples, Gottman reached the conclusion that you can never change a partner, no matter how hard you try. According to him, most couple disagreements are caused by deeply rooted personality traits and values that rarely change.

The solution here is to cope with your differences, avoid situations that worsen them, and develop strategies to maneuver them.

4. Emotional Intelligence 101: Name that emotion.

Studies show that emotionally intelligent people have happy relationships because they’re able to defuse conflicts with minimal or no damage.

Researchers found that the best way to both increase emotional intelligence and settle a fight is by being able to name out loud the emotion your partner is feeling at the moment.

You’re not a psychic, I understand, but most of the time you’ll be able to tell what they’re feeling or why they’re angry with you. Translating this understanding into phrases like: “I know you’re angry,” “It feels sad, I know,” or “I bet you’re worried,” will lessen that emotion intensity and potentially prevent fights.

In her book How Emotions Are Made: The Secret Life of the Brain, psychologist Lisa Feldman writes:

“If you could distinguish finer meanings within ‘Awesome’ (happy, content, thrilled, relaxed, joyful, hopeful, inspired, prideful, adoring, grateful, blissful), and fifty shades of “Crappy” (angry, aggravated, alarmed, spiteful, grumpy, remorseful, gloomy, mortified, uneasy, dread-ridden, resentful, afraid, envious, woeful, melancholy…), your brain would have many more options for predicting, categorizing, and perceiving emotion, providing you with the tools for more flexible and functional responses.”

The next time you want someone to feel less tense, show that you understand their experience by naming what you think they’re feeling, be it anger, frustration, fear, or something else. You may not identify exactly what’s in their heart, but you’ll likely disarm them by showing you’re trying to understand and empathize with their feelings.

5. Take responsibility for your part.

Blaming is the quickest way to turn a small conflict into a fight. According to Gottman, couples who stay together longer don’t blame, but rather share equal responsibility over conflicts.

They use phrases like, “This isn’t completely your fault; I know that part of this is me” in order to soften things between them. Thus they’re more likely to end conflicts peacefully.

When I was struggling financially after quitting my job, I didn’t want anyone else to know, especially my family, since I’d already rejected a prosperous career in engineering to do marketing.

I felt bad when I knew my girlfriend had told my parents on the phone, and I was tempted to get angry. But then I realized I shared part of the responsibility because I hadn’t made it clear that she shouldn’t tell anybody, and she realized she should’ve asked me before sharing this information with others.

6. Help when you can, even when it’s not your turn.

When you count favors, you turn your relationship into a game, and in games there’s only one winner. If you can help with something, do it, even if it’s not yours to do. In other words: Help when you can, not when it’s your turn.

See some dirty mugs while waiting for coffee to brew? Wash them. Going out? Take the trash with you. She’s sleeping like a zombie and the baby is crying? Change his diaper; don’t wake her up, even if it’s her turn.

These little things matter, and many partners appreciate them and will repay the favor by doing the same for you. Of course, there are times when relationships get unbalanced and you may realize you’re being taken for granted. But so long as there’s equal give and take overall in your relationship, it serves you both to stop keeping score and to help whenever you can.

7. End the day on a positive note.

Among fifty activities couples should do to build intimacy, Gottman puts reuniting as his most important choice. He recommends that couples reunite at the end of the day and talk about how it went. This will settle lingering conflicts and help them end the day on a positive note.

8. One good thing per day.

Darren Hardy, founder of Success Magazine, does this every day and swears by it. He simply writes one thing he appreciates about his wife that day, be it how she looked, what she said, or how she made him feel. Hardy recalls the nicely wrapped notebook, with one year worth of notes, he gave to his wife as her most-favored birthday gift.

Taking notes works because it`s another form of gratitude which, according to studies, makes you happy and attract positive things in life. This will also help you see your partner is a more positive light instead of focusing on their negative side.

Finally, it takes determination.

Like any good thing in life, you have to invest big time to make a promising relationship work. You will have to let go of your ego and learn when to admit you`re wrong, when to be flexible, and when to stand up for yourself. It may be take a lot of effort to turn things around, but it’s well worth it.

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About Marwan Jamal

MJ is a fitness and health blogger at healthline.com and a great fan of the gym and a healthy diet. He follows the trends in fitness, gym, and healthy life and loves to share his knowledge through useful and informative articles.

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